- The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves. The resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them, we do not love what they are but only their potential likeness in us. Then we do not
love them, we only love our reflection of ourselves that we find in them.
I have come to believe that there is nothing like love. Love isn’t the feeling we feel in our bellies and in our hearts. Love isn’t that sweet tingling sensation. Rather love is Sacrifice, patience and Understanding.
Maybe everyone will come to realize that unlike we think Love is not about How far but rather how well.
The Vital requirements in every Romance is happiness and peace.
In as much as people say, Love is sometimes about letting go, no, it is always about holding on till. . .
Love is about making the other person happy. This is one thing we owe one another in Love, this becomes a debt. If we cannot pay this debt, then truly we do not deserve to be with them.
When it isn’t working, don’t put the blame on love. There are other things that are more important in love. Try compatibility.Love must always be 50:50 in whatever we want to think about: Happiness, Sorrow, bodily pleasure etc If one ratio is really greater than the other, problems start to arise.
Loving someone doesn’t justify you. It doesn’t make them indebted to you.
Beautiful relationships work not because there are no negativities or bad times but rather because there are more positivities, more good and happy memories than there are bad ones. Nothing breaks a relationship more than turning to whatever position and everywhere is littered with screams, tears and hurt.
The first step to success in love is first of all acknowledge your own faults. As humans, it's okay to want to be on the defensive. It's okay to always want to think we are right. It's okay to always want to think we are the victims. I use “Okay” because no matter how hard we try, we would always think and act like this but success comes when we acknowledge and admit our own faults.
As humans we always point fingers at others before pointing to ourselves but why accusing the other, why not take a closer look at your own self?
- The greatest mistake is when we begin to think that the other is the cause of everything that goes wrong in the relationship.
We may have heard this before, there are three truths to a matter: Your truth, The other truth and the real truth which can be seen by outsiders.
Now, we make the mistake of judging our partner from our own truth, from our own angle and point of view.
Sometimes, humans are sick and they do not even know it.
When we begin to see the other as the only cause, as the bad one, the love may begin to drain. We then conjure this image of who we want them to be and this cannot work because no matter how hard we try to be someone else, who others want us to be, we would always fall back to being who we are.
- Try being crazy about those things you think are their negativities.
- While you are hurting, think about the pains of the other.
-Never give up if you feel you can still go on.
Don’t expect to just be attacked by love, don’t rush love. Yes, we fall in love but love grows with time.
Finally,If you are having your dream love, if all is okay, then never make a fool of the heart that loves you. Keep loving.
If yours is a bitter one, why don't you try loving harder? If it still won’t work? Why don't you try patience? If it still won’t work, why don’t you sit and ask yourself certain questions. If it still won’t work, just let the other take over. If it still won't love, why don’t you consider changing your mode of loving? If it still won’t work, maybe there is something missing? Why don’t you fish it out?
If it still won't work, then it was never meant to be.
You would find peace elsewhere.
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