Happy Sunday to you all and welcome to my blog.
I will be talking about something different today and that's "LOVE"
LOVE........hmmm what a word!
Sometimes I ponder over these four letters and wonder why it's easy for someone to acclaim I LOVE YOU without really understanding its essence. Funny enough it appears love has grown deeper among opposite sex than same, worst to think of no hope on self love.
The fear of being alone has gripped our people, men or women. I know it's not easy to overcome this pressure. Even the most liberated people are adversely affected by the pressure of public opinion.....Ahhh do they like me, what are they saying about me, I want them to like me......and many more. Come on! Withstanding the opinion of others is at best stressful and at worst debilitating. Many of us are crippled by the masses of people who do not allow us the freedom of our own opinions and the exploration of our own person hood.
If someone says you look terrible in a dress, don't you wear it with reluctance the next time? Even though we say we do not care what people think, to some degree we are still vulnerable to their wrong ideas. But if we are going to be effective individuals, we must develop the ability to embrace ourselves. A positive self image is not arrogant!
Wait, come to think of it.... without doubt we all want to experience love but we must ask....Are we in love with others or are we in love with the idea of being in love? Many are the women and men as well who have turned to the arms of someone looking for assurance that they are loved by them. They blame their partners for not being there for them. Many women find it difficult to appreciate themselves because society puts pressure on them to be completely selfless, any attempt at self-nuturing and self-love is condemned. No woman wants to hear people say to her....you are not a wife material, you don't have qualities of a mother, so they comply in giving, giving and giving without appreciating what they possess.
Perhaps one of the most difficult things to achieve is the ability to be motivated by ourselves. Being alone does not mean you are lonely. You may still be with someone and yet lonely. Have you entertained yourself?
Let me teach you:
Go to the market, buy foodstuffs, enter the kitchen prepare your meal and watch a movie. You need to keep fit to appreciate how good you look.
Light a candle, sew your turn clothes, or if you can make a new one..better, test it before a mirror and admire what you have done.
Play a song, dance to the music you hear, let the beat illuminate your heart, let it welcome you in the world of happiness.
Take a walk and meditate on your own accomplishments. Most people spend no time entertaining themselves. They only entertain others. Smile at the benefits you've got and shout Alleluia.
Kneel down beside your bed and pray to your God. He is the only one you can talk to even when no one is there for you. He keeps you company when you communicate with him.
When you do these few items routinely, regardless of who you are, man or woman, it becomes your life....no dull moment. Happiness would join you.
Who can compete with Love? For God is Love.
If as a woman, your relationship is not fortified with your Lord and yourself, you will enter into a relationship with a man for the wrong reason. It is the single woman who has the time to develop true spirituality...1Corinthians7:34-35.
A married woman who also relates with her Lord is to be praised. Her husband may understand what she says but her Lord understands what she feels.
Sometimes God delays relationships to give you a chance to heal as an individual. Then and only then you can make choices that are healthy and not as a result of fear. While you are single hear me my hero or my lady, if you do not spend time finding wholeness and learning the art of being alone, you will marry out of fear and then years later awaken to the comatose state of low self-esteem, only to recognize that you are a valuable entity whether there is a man/woman around or not.
I am therefore suggesting that you have a relationship first with your God, secondly with yourself and finally out of manifold fruits of habitation, you are ready to share with anyone you have determined to bring to the table of Love.
My name is 
Establish your own identity.
Love yourself.
Fall in love with your inner being.
That makes the difference!
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