LETTER TO MY FUTURE WIFE

Dear future wife,

I have chosen to write you this letter to let you know the things I expect myself to give to you. This is aimed at serving me a constant reminder while waiting patiently for the day we will eventually become one.

I know how unfortunate it is that there is selfish-focus in many Christian marriages today. I am aware that many are attempting to fulfil their selfish needs in marriages these days and I also know that this does not glorify God.

My love for you will "not seek its own self-interest". Instead, it would seek yours. I will seek your self-interest above mine always.

I also know that sometimes I am going to have needs that are not really needs and I'm conscious of the fact that marriage is the union of two imperfects souls coming together. I'll do my best to not focus on your failures but on improving mine. My focus will be to love you in spite of your imperfection. It will be my duty to serve your interest even in the minute details.

Of course yes, it is my responsibility to provide for you financially. "But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel." ~ 1 Tim 5:8. And yes, we will have financial burdens but it will never drag us back, it will never be our end. I am preparing myself financially for our future, you can bet on that.

I will not only be in pursuit of your material needs but your spiritual needs as well. i am determined to seek your happiness, to consistently be in pursuit of your healing when you are hurt and provide for you in all that you need.

I know that things may bother you that look irrelevant to me, as long as it bothers you, I will find solution. My life will be given for you as Christ gave His for the Church.

I also have to let you know that I have decided to stop running around others hoping it's you. I have failed imagining you. I have decided to let life surprise me.

I know I owe you an apology. I have cheated on you, cared for the wrong people.

I am excited because I'm going to find a best friend in you, a mentor, financial planner and a lover. I heard someone told you I've had a female best friend for 12 years. Yes, that's true and she's getting married in about two months. She's been an awesome friend and she believes so much in you.

Lastly, I think about you every day. That's the most exciting thing ever; it's not your face it's not your figure or shape either, it's your wonderful existence in my thoughts.

I am determined to go higher than your expectation for the married life.

I am confident my mum and siblings are soon going to become yours too. They are the most amazing people in the world. Just like yours. They can't wait to meet you.

I hope I can soon write letters to sneak under your pillow and in your pockets.

I'm actually in the middle of work and I have to go now. Be the best as you've always been.