Truth they say is bitter, Truth also sets you free. Today, I'm going to be sharing a few truths about Love and relationships.
1. Giving away all your heart and love does not guarantee love in return (It's not math!)
Sad, I know, but very true. We sometimes make the mistake of thinking that love works like science or math, we put in a lot and expect that or more in return but in truth, the fact that you gave love to someone does not necessarily mean that you will be shown the same amount or even any form of love in return. The best way to love is to not expect anything in return, that way if the love is reciprocated, it's all that exciting and if it's not then you'll still be able to carry on with yourself, probably show that love to someone else who'll better appreciate it.
2. You can't always get what you want
Just like you don't fall in love with everybody, do not make the mistake of thinking you can make anyone you want fall in love with you. You may be by far the most handsome looking bloke around or the most attractive gal in a room but that doesn't mean that "Mr/Miss. Right for you" sees you that way. The both of you may not just have good chemistry or she may simply not just be into you. Looks and personality will place you very high on the scoreboard but it does not guarantee the #1 spot when it comes to love!
3. Love is 50-50, win or lose (there is no guarantee)
When someone tells you something like "I will love you forever" They may mean it at the time and they may be very serious but just as much as you can't tell what will happen in the next instant, no one knows tomorrow. A lot of people have made promises that they couldn't keep in the heat of the moment and these promises only make a break up a lot more painful than they should have been. You may have made up your mind to love someone at a particular point in time, but times change, things change and people change. You cannot make predictions with love, It is a game that has no sure odds.
Some words by John Legend in his song titled "Love Me Now"
Something inside us
Knows there's nothing guaranteed, yeah
Girl, I don't need you
To tell me that you'll never leave, no
When we've done all that we could
To turn darkness into light, turn evil to good
Even when we try so hard
For that perfect kind of love, it could all fall apart
If you're in love or in a relationship and you haven't yet come to terms with this reality, then you may be on the verge of probably the greatest shock of your life. Love is a strong bond, it is however a bond between people and that is where the problem lies. Experiences, nature and state of mind come into play always for a heart that is in love. For some people, it would take a lot to severe the bond of love that exists and for others, it takes far less. This is not to say "do not invest in a relationship" you should if you're in love, but approach it more with an "enjoy the ride" kind of attitude so that, if it fails, then you really enjoyed your time together and even though it will still hurt, you can more easily move on from it without regrets. Rather than having to say "I gave you all i had" or "I tried so hard to make this work, I even went out of my way." News flash! it's not always the way of love to reward you for your hardwork.
4. Love Hurts
This is probably the greatest truth about love. You know, when we watch movies and we see people in love, it's usually very sweet and very nice, everything looks great. Once in a while there's a little misunderstanding that ultimately gets settled and everything gets good again. So most people have the mentality that love is going to be the sweetest thing ever. First of all, love can be sweet but this is only possible when you're loved in return. Otherwise, it is just filled with pain. It's the worst feeling ever to be in love and to not feel that love reciprocated.
But then again, even when you're love back equally, loving someone is equivalent to laying down your shield and sword in a battlefield, you're gonna get stabbed dude! Little things begin to take more meaning in relationships and you find yourself getting hurt or offended easily. Depending on your type of person, seeing your significant other with another person may get you so jealous, you wanna just lay down and weep.
5. Love is a game
This is a truth that some persons may not be willing to accept, but whether you like it or not, love is a game and as soon as you enter into its field, you automatically become a player. You can either be in control or be controlled. However, saying that you won't play at all should mean that you're opting out of that relationship, otherwise you will end up getting played. Some people do not realize this truth on time,some people never realize this truth at all and it's usually no good. Best to know what it is and decide what kind of a player you want to be. Ignorance has never helped anybody and in the game of love, ignorance can be lethal.
6. No one deserves Love
If you look at love as something that is owed you, you are very wrong. You deserve respect and to be treated decently, you deserve basic social amenities such as food, water, e.t.c. But you do not deserve love.
Don't be deceived.
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Thanks for reading!