She: Do you love me?
He: I love you.
She: How much do you love me?
He: I love you a lot!
Love is not something we have too often in our lives, and not every person ever loved or have being loved .
WE DON'T SPEAK ABOUT FEELING IN LOVE !
We have plenty of divorces, abandoned children, irresponsible family cohabitation, and failed relationships, and everyone is very much in love. Why someone does not say "Well, honestly, middle work is my love for you ..." or "... at 68% at the moment."
How is love measured at all?
To measure something we first need to know what it is! The love I'm talking about here is not the love of friends, parents and child, or the love of work even not the feeling in love . It's about the love one man has for one woman and the other way around!
Love is not lust, passion, desire, butterflies in the belly, "I have lost my mind," and the veal look in the void. Good or bad, these are just feelings that have nothing to do with the true love. The two important things we need to know about love are that we consciously decide to love another person and that to love is actually much more labor and deeds than feelings
Love is a CHOSE !
This is a fundamental building block of love! If a person says about love "well it happens", this man is lying to himself. You are not a flower in the living room, that it will happen to you to pile! We are people. We do something to happen to us. We make a decision to love another person and bear responsibility for this decision.
You can get in love this but this won't last to long. In some moment you have to make the chose to continue love this person or not !
From the moment we make the decision to love the other person, we constantly adjust to him , learn patience, mercy on mistakes, not look for ourselves, do not get upset, do not ignore him , accept and believe. We learn to forgive, to communicate fully, to care, to be emotionally intelligent in our relationship, to enjoy together, and above all, to show humility in order to put our relationship priorities ahead of our own. It's all too hard!
I think is wrong if people enter a relationship with the setting to find someone to cover them needs well enough. The right attitude is to turn the expectation to ourselves:
"Can I take the necessary care for him ?
Love begins to go away when the works that build it starts to go !
If you feel a lack of love for your partner, do not look for the reason why he or she does not do enough for you, but do something big and meaningful to him . We love true not when someone does a lot for us, but when we do a lot for the other.
Everyone has some idea of an ideal relationship or family, or at least he knows what he wants to have and what he does not. We think, "I am a decent person, sooner or later someone else will appear and things will happen." Expecting the ideal relationship for us, we move on to the encounter of the "right person."
The reality is that the perfect relationship that we are looking for depends much more than we become ideal for him rather than meeting the ideal person for us. A relationship is never just so "perfect" at least because you are part of it, and you are not perfect yourself. The reality is that of these 100% ideal, only 30% is due to the perfect fit between two people and the other 70% come from long-term, permanent, mutual work. As in the work, things are successful not simply because some people have been the right once , but because there is passion , goals, rules, priorities, and again - a lot of work.
Every time you put his need above in a situation important to you, this builds your love for your partner. When you turn back and see many situations in which you've given yourself a real deal and put yourself in the background of things important to you, you realize that this person is so important to you and you love him so much.
"How much do you love me?"
Love comes with the decision to love another person and is maintained and built with the cares we do afterwards. These cases can be seen and measured. Measuring them, we can see if the other really loves us very much at the moment and, more importantly, whether and how much we love the other person.
The next time when I ask you, "How much do you love me?", Think about how many TIMES you sacrifice something for making ME happy ! And only if your deeds are really great, answer with a pure heart :
,,A lot ! I really love you a lot ! "
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