Motherhood for me is one of the best things I have ever done but at times it is incredibly hard. One of the things I find hard is the sacrifice of self. Having to surrendering your own wants and needs for the betterment of the family.
The term you can have it all is not always true. Well for me it has not always been true. That is where I think sacrificial living comes into play. I have sacrificed my own desires and plans for the future to fulfil my role as wife and mother. At times I have resented this but really on the whole it makes me who I am.
I am a more thoughtful sincere mother and wife when I am in this role and I also find that I am more compassionate to those around me when I am living a life that is not all about myself.
Having the large family has made me see myself in a different light as well. I truly have always wanted a career but with children I can now see that this is not going to happen for a number of years if ever.
I believe in time for self as a very important element of my motherhood. If I have time out with friends or myself I seem to clear my head and be able to process the very essence of who I am. It makes for a much happier mum.
I am not a perfect mum but I have to remind myself that I am the perfect mum for my kids and I can always keep working on improving myself daily.
