I went on one of those paid web sites and i had met a really nice man. he is in his late 50s , not bad to look at and has his life in order, We chatted a bit but not a whole lot as he keeps himself busy with work . but he says he only works 3 days a week. We were going to met up yesterday , but work took over again.. lets see if he takes the wheel and plans the next date as the first one i had to arrange ......Maybe its best to pay for a dating site vs not ,,,, just my opinion. ,