How many of you already think that you have married to wrong person?
The vast mayority of you is probably saying yes, let's just be honest.
There's a lot of anger held inside of us because of the way that our love life have gone. So by changing your feelings of anger or rage into grief you will be able to make progress and that's if you're able to move on alsofrom grief.
Something to keep in mind is that rage is not all as negative as you might think. Rage is also full of optimism as to "why am I in this situation knowing that I could have it easier, better and ultimately be happier". Optimism is ,in fact, hope that drives rage. Industries have programmed us into believing that love is something that is just not real so our expectations of love are extremely high and this is something that doesn't help at all our love relationships.
So, it really is not that bad but sometimes we realize this when it's already too late or when we are with a partner that is worse than the previous one. The truth is that we might not ever find the right person but will most probably manage to find the good-enough person and that is actually success.
We're all very strange individuals with different backgrounds and different history which builds our mindset, believes, morals, etc. We are hard to live with and we never get to know each other or even oneself 100%. So, when two individuals get together into a relationship it's just never going to be perfect and the quicker we accept and understand this the better our relationships will be.
Another important point to make is that love as we know it is not something we are born with... It is actually a skill. A lot of people do not know how to love... specially people with psychological patterns which won't allow then to love properly. Love is a challenge. Being loved is the fun bit, and this is what we expect and this leads us not to pay attention to the other side of the equation, which is to love. To love ultimately is to apply charity and generosity of interpretation of another's behavior. There are no heroes or sinners really among human beings and this is why maturity is so crucial to helps us see this.
Another thing that we must understand is that if we don't explain what bothers us then we cannot expect to be understood. We have to actually teach our partners about us. Another factor would be the noble gesture that we call criticism... something that we tend to reject and take as an attack. Constructive criticism is given to the other half when we want to help them to improve or to better themselves.
We are all incompatible but it is work of love that makes us graciously accommodate each other and ourselves to each other's compability. And, therefore, compability is an achievement of love.
All of us have types that are going to cause us real problems. They may be too distant, they may be arrogant, they're going to torture us in some way and we're not going to be able to change our type... let's just give that for granted but what you CAN do is to change characteristically respond to your tricky type. Most of us have formed the way that we respond to tricky types in early childhood. So if we had a distant parent, we now have chosen a distant lover, and this creates a vicious circle. It is always much better to have a more mature response to the challenges that the types of people we're attracted to are going to pose for us and that is an immense step forward.
Compromise is noble and it's not bad to stick around because there are children. it's not at all bad like people are used to think. So, marry and you will regret it... don't marry and you will also regret that too, we're humans full of flaws and very imperfect.
Thank you for reading!