Hi guys,
It's obviously the love season as Valentine’s Day is around the corner. I guess most of us will be going out on dates and all trying to celebrate love but I got a question for y'all "are you actually in love?" This question most times usually get the wrong answer, I'm sorry to burst your bubbles but from my point of view, most people dating are actually not in love, some don't even understand the concept of love but that's a topic for another day. I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine and she was telling me about her new boyfriend then I popped a question. I asked her "girl, do you really love this guy?" and her reply shocked me, she said she wasn't sure. I guess most of us date for different reasons mostly he wrong reason but here are some tips if you want to find out if you're in love.
• You’re interested in every detail of the person. Of course why wouldn’t you be interested when the person fascinates you? From the person’s favorite color to the ambitions, you just want to know all of it.
• You don’t mind having them around. Even if it takes the whole day you just wouldn’t mind because you crave the person’s presence all the time. No matter what mood you are in or how busy you are you wouldn’t mind. There’s just this longing to be around them all the time, to check on them and even the phone calls you may wish should be more frequent because you crave their attention.
• You fight to stay together. This point can be seen from two directions, the first being fighting each other and the next is fight together side by side against anything or anyone that may be seen as a threat to your relationship. Most people don’t understand the former so let’s break it down, each time the both parties fight, the makeup (reconciliation) brings them closer and makes their bond stronger. So you’re likely to embrace each other’s differences.
• If you’re in love whenever you’re painting a picture of your future you always have him/her in the picture. That is to say you see a future together with the person.
• Huhn-huh, most of all you can’t get the person out of your head. You just can’t stop thinking about him/her. Now this is beyond getting physical, thinking about the body or the looks. You’re thought are deep-rooted. You’ll always think of how to add value to the person’s life.
• When you’re in love you don’t see the person’s flaws no more because you’ve accepted the person along with the flaws. If possible you cover up his/her flaws. I guess this is where you say love is blind (LOL)
Just before we wrap up I’d like to remind you what love is as described in the bible, it says; “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
Does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
Does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails” (1Cor 13; 4-7)