An excited and very anxious boy once a ran to his father and puts forth this “dad can I know the right woman? The dad replied “don't worry yourself on how to know the right woman rather, concentrate on becoming the man and the right woman would come to you”. what idea(s) do you incubate in your mind on the right woman? Of what makes up do you hope to see in the right woman? (What characteristics should the ' right woman possess. These and for sure and many more questions confront any man who thinks he is ripe and ready to take a woman straight, to the alter to tie the 'golden' and highly exalted knot.
But conversely to the foregoing of much more importance to the man, who thinks he is ripe to take a Step away from ‘bachelor hood” should undoubtedly behave himself and trims off characters that posses unreadiness to that woman he Wishes to take as a Wife. It has on several occasions been proved that most men carry with themselves certain unholy behaviours exhibited during their bachelor Life into married homes. Such, behaviors include drinking to stupor. thereby, unable to control one's anger, keeping late nights, keeping contacts with their ex-girlfriends, and the list continues... . . .
Most surprising is the popular notion in Africa that, only women should and must be subjective in marriage. But, alas, it ought not to be. it takes two to tangle. If the dog falls for you and you reciprocate, the play continues. The man too has his contributions to input into making and meeting the right Woman.
Come to think of it, I sincerely doubt if there is, anyone who don't likes 'good things' as it were. No man or woman derives pleasure from the 'wrong’ opposite sex, It is same here in Nigeria, in Africa and world wide What should as a matter of fact trouble the real man is how to make himself the man for the right woman to eventually meet. And on closer examination, this ought not to be a difficult task. William Shakespeare says “once you believe you can you will”. The man who sees himself right and sets to marry, knows the unwanted parts of his life to get rid off. He knows so. because “conscience is an open wound, only the, truth heals it. -Usman Dan Fodio.
The man knows he should limit the amount of alcoholic. intake he consumes! He Knows he should as a matter of immediate alacrity, ex-communicate with his ex-girlfriends. He knows he should mind the kind and brands of male friends he keeps. He should cut down on his extravagant lifestyle. (this is vital as he needs to start planning for a family rather than himself alone). And the rest his his decision to make after deep examination of himself.
With the above expectations and those determined by oneself, the right man would just see the right woman walking into his arms tightly.
