What is the definition of health relationships?
There may be no precise definition of health relationships, but at least there are some determinants that, if absent, are in an unhealthy relationship.
The first of these determinants is mutual giving. This does not mean that things are equal, but there is always mutual giving and taking between the two parties. When there is a party that gives the length of time and the other takes time, we have an unhealthy relationship that will not last.
And the only relationships allowed to be a party that gives along and another side along with the relationship with children; children depend on adults to meet all their needs, but adults, although it is acceptable to rely on each other in some things; but the reciprocity always exists, It is important that all things be agreed.
In health relationships there is rapprochement, mutual respect, communication, emotional support, presence, honesty and trust. These apply to all relationships, but they are the first among the partners of life.
In the emotional relationships between the partners of life, each party in the relationship feels connected and supported, but it also enjoys independence. There is a balance between the needs of the relationship and the needs of each party. There are spaces for sharing interests and activities together, and there is space for each side of the relationship alone with Family or friends or even alone, and there is no ideal ratio, it is important that things be mutually agreed between the partners of life.
It is important to mention that we are affected by the patterns of relationships we have seen in our childhood, and that we tend to repeat these patterns - unconsciously - however unhealthy; which negatively affects our current relations, and we will not be able to get out of the family of this past only with awareness and foresight.
* Important keys to a healthy marital relationship
1. Mutual respect
This key is very important, impossible to establish a healthy relationship without it, and mutual respect does not mean agreeing to all the views of life partner, but simply means that we can disagree respectfully, with appreciation and admiration of the partner, and in the background love and trust, and feel both sides of the relationship Propped on his partner and both in the back of some.
Abuse, whether physical, verbal or emotional, kills mutual respect.
2. The difference is acceptable and the discussion is welcome without a fight
There is no healthy relationship without differences and discussions, and the relationship that is lacking is an unhealthy relationship, and it is important to have a discussion without conflict and fighting, without shouting and high voice, and the difference of views can still exist, and you can agree not to agree, Non-negotiable and waiver.
3. Managing the sexual relationship with love and understanding
They agree on the number of times that are appropriate for both of you, how and where to practice the relationship, and what is important is that there is a common agreement between you, that sex is not used as punishment, and that you can discuss uncomfortable things in your relationship but without acerbic criticism. Or busy.
4. Agree on the parenting pattern among you
There are at least 3 patterns of parenting:
- the tyranny, in which there are strict rules can not be debated.
- The style of good dictatorship, in which parents set rules, and children discuss these rules, and propose amendments, but the final word of the parents.
- A loose style, in which the parents do not set any rules and leave completely free for their children to do what they want to do.
It is not important here to discuss any more healthy patterns for children. We may discuss them in subsequent articles, but it is important that the difference in style between the couple affects their relationship, and then it is their understanding to agree on one pattern and agree on small details.
Our differences in parenting patterns in the beginning are very limited because we grew up in different families. Each partner unconsciously repeats the patterns he has seen in his childhood. It is important to be aware of this and discuss it even before thinking about procreation.
5. Managing financial affairs
Family money management is a joint right of the partners of life, even if one of them earns more than the other, and the most important debate and agreement on the aspects and items of expenditure, especially when buying things with a high purchasing value.
If one of the partners is responsible for paying the bills, he has to pay them on time and not delay them so as not to endanger the stability of the family, and sometimes the most favorable relationship may be that each partner has his own bank account.
6. The existence of common goals and values
Shared goals and values help my life partner to establish a healthy relationship. Partners may differ in interests and cultural background. They may differ in religion, but as long as there are basic governing values, the relationship between them is likely to be healthy.
It is also important that the partners have common goals to agree on together. Whether these objectives are moral objectives or material goals, their existence supports the validity of the relationship.
7. Fun
With time, sexual stimuli go down, and the dazzling beauty that may be moving in the beginning begins. How beautiful it is that the time you spend with your life partner is fun and fun. It is fun to be associated with a life partner that makes you laugh every day. Life is difficult and it only eases Laughter.
Sources:
How Do You Know If Your Relationships Are Healthy?
7 Keys to a Healthy and Happy Relationship