This is a wedding lingo ...Wedding cakes have made more bitter enemies than World War ll. I think this is sad and was not suppose to be this way...and wonder why it is this way.
Maybe it is because people are suppose to bake the cake, not their marriages. They want to have their wedding cake and eat it, too. They in essence do not leave time in their relationship for a relationship, and they do not treat each other right...that is, treat eachother the way that they want to be treated.
It is up to us to treat others the way that we want to be treated whether they want to treat us that way in kind or not...Otherwise we are weak and letting the other person control our behavior...Besides, we are intelligent enough to always know where the door is if one becomes abusive with us. How do you stop abuse? Do not be available. So we can live with dignity by treating others the way we want to be treated, no matter what, and be strong. And we can end abuse by not being available, and be smart. So, when people aren't strong and smart, things are not the way they should be.