Dear singles,
Don't be carried away by the manner in which marriage is painted as a pinky lovey dovey affair between two perfect spouses who never have problems. Lower your marital expectations, do not have this mindset that your spouse must be this and that by all means.
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It's okay to have some requirements but maintain the middle cause because:
It may be that your spouse can only accommodate you in a small room.
It may be that tour spouse will be owing your dowry for the next 10 years.
It may be that your spouse may not understand arabic
It may be that your spouse will be a road side mechanic.
It may be that your spouse will be a secondary sch cert holder.
It may be that your spouse will not be able to afford a keke napep let alone buying your own Bugatti for you.
It may be that your spouse can't afford your holiday trip to Abuja, let alone taking you to Hajj.
It may be that your spouse can't afford chicken and cat fish in your meal everyday, except pomo and sapele fish on credit from mama grace.
It may be that your spouse will not be able to buy you the beautiful wrist watches being sold online.
It may be that your spouse won't be able to buy you jilbabs every month.
It may be that your spouse won't be able to buy you the phone you desire, manage the Nokia torchlight for the meantime.
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Do not have such high expectations so much that you'll expect a charming prince who is as rich as Atiku and as knowledgeable as Sheik Fawzaan. We are not saying you should also go for a dummy or a lazy fulaan who is not ready to pay your bills or improve his ilm. Just keep an average mindset and call unto Allah to give you what you need and not what you want.
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This days, it's very rare to find a charming prince who is a haafiz, a student of knowledge, who is tall, fair with dimples and a set of smashing white teeths, with a pink lips, 6-packs, broad shoulders, with a mansion in banana island and a company in dubai, who cruises a Lamborgini to halqah every thursday. In summary, it's hard to find a spouse who combines the goodness of the world and the hereafter simulataneously, so lower your scale, else you will break your own heart even before someone breaks it for you.