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TODAY'S HIGHLIGHT IS "WE WISH WE KNEW THAT APOLOGY WAS A STRENGTH.
There are no healthy marriage without apology and forgiveness. You need to know the language that works for your spouse when apologizing - "I am sorry", "I was wrong", woulf you please forgive me?
THERE ARE FIVE APOLOGY LANGUAGES
- EXPRESSING REGRET: I'm sorry, when you say this, attach what you are sorry for, example: "Honey am sorry, I couldn't make breakfast for you before leaving".
This language is emotional and seeks to express to the other person your pain that your words or actions have hurt them deeply. Express to them you know the consequences of what you did.
ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY : I was wrong, and then go on to explain what was wrong about your behaviour. Don't blame the person, accept you were wrong in your actions.
MAKING RESTITUTION: This language seeks to make things right, probably the guy forgot his woman's birthday and he is asking to make it up to her.
- GENUINE EXPRESSION OF YOUR DESIRE TO CHANGE:
This apology seeks to come up with a plan to keep the bad behaviour from reoccurring, you could ask your spouse to help give an idea or what to do to correct a bad habit that is existing.
- REQUESTING FORGIVENESS: "Would you forgive me please? When couples learn to apologise in a manner that is meaningful to the other person, they make communication easier.
What people must know when you are apologising is whether you are sincere.
However, for your apology to matter to them then you must learn to spend their apology language!
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