…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 and part 7
A lot depends on this soon to be husband. It's a tape from the past; when he wasn’t there, not the present. I admit, it's really difficult to deal with but as I said, I a lot depend on this guy. Since he already knows the intention of this ex, he can let him know he has won, because he has you and that's one thing her ex can never have.
It is hard but the husband shouldn’t judge her solely based on her past. They can both work hand in hand; I mean the intending couple to get cyber security personnel who can assist them in reporting the matter to have the video taken down when released. The Police should be involved too; it is a criminal act.
She would need to consider a lawyer too. I think they both need to be hard on this guy and not negotiate with him because if they do, they will still expect him to come up with something more damaging later on. He would have them at his beck and call and he just want to exploit them. Only when this intending couple can weather this storm can they have a victory over this ex. If the husband to be chickens out, then this ex has won on all fronts. The effect would be damaging, not only to the husband to be, but to the lady in question too. This is a true test of their love and commitment. They have their first real test together come so early and how they handle this will determine how their lives would turn out; together and even individually.
We have all done one thing or the other we are ashamed of; something that can be used against us too, but the degree varies. When this guy eventually release the video, the past will come rushing to the surface and she must be ready to deal with the aftermath. She needs to brace up for her in laws and I think the husband will play a good role in pacifying them. The lady in that video is not her. That was her foolish version and now she is a better person. She needs to be upfront with her husband to be and how he responds will set the tune for everything else.
This ex just wants her to be looking over her shoulder on the day of her joy. He is determined to give her fear and worries on her day. She should just enjoy her wedding and be happy. There is the thought of how the husband would respond to things after knowing, but I am of the opinion that he should tell him, even if the wedding is already stated for tomorrow.
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.