I have come to see the difference between the two meaning that is a wedding and a real marriage.
In most times people look at weddings as the point where one is marrying someone as a wife or husband in a church or some ceremony organized and there’s a third party leading the couple to wed.
But come to think of it there very many types of marriage; civil marriage, customary marriage, church marriage if am to mention a few yet you can marry someone and not wed them.
A wedding is not necessarily marrying someone as wife or husband because you can marry someone before you wed them.
It doesn’t mean that if you wed someone you have already married them because marriage is more than just a wedding for example a civil marriage occurs before a wedding meaning a wedding is not a marriage.
Now back to my point a wedding being just a one-day drama thing. In weddings we are all know what often happens people have fun, they eat, drink and dance, the couples exchange vows, everyone looks happy, smiles everywhere, smartness all over the place and many beautiful moments to mention a few so it’s your day basically and at the end of the day you have spent enough money and everything was as planned which was worthy.
Now my question is what next? After the wedding because now the day is gone meaning the fun and many smiles what next?
Now a times you hear people who have just wedded months later or years later a divorce is on its way do you know why? The answer is simple all this happened simply because it was all about the wedding not marriage (you probably got interested in a guy because he simply said will you marry me and you excitedly said yes looking at the present not the future what holds ahead. You wedded the guy because of his money, position, profession but not the person himself but things he is attached to. So here the wedding becomes just a one-day thing show off to your friends that you got wedded or just a moment of excitedness led you to say yes.
So, the one day wedded has ended and now what next? The what next is the simply the future(marriage)
So here in marriage I look at it has something deeper because marriage is a life time thing, looks beyond the physical appearance, nice clothes, jobs but what the future holds for the two of you not just the present.
The present can be a one day thus a wedding but real marriage is a life time.
Imagine waking up one morning and the feelings you once had for your wedded wife is all goned, will you stick in the marriage or run away.
So, it’s time we prepare ourselves for real marriage. A life time marriage not just a wedding because in marriage there is real love that last forever but, in a wedding, you may wed someone you don’t real love them so you end up calling it love yet its lust. But of course, a wedding is an attribute of marriage but wanted you to get the difference in the similarities.
But I marriage without God can never last, God has to be behind the picture. That will be a story of another day.
Thank you hoped you have learnt something.