Recently, I see so many Instagram photos of couples getting hitched. They seems so happy and content. At least some of them seem surely genuine. The question that comes in my mind is why do I look at them and try to find if they are content or not. Then, I find other photos that seem interested in getting married. Could this mean I am trying to compare my marriage with others getting hitched or the once looking for an ideal partner.
I got married when I was 26. To some this might be too soon to get married and settle down in life. However, I felt it was the right time. As I think about the time, I realize that I felt the need for a companion in life to be a part of my time in this world. It was not about spending a lot of money on the ceremony or ensuring that I go abroad for my honeymoon. It was all about spending a good time together and enjoying each other’s company. It was the first time we spent so much time together with someone in a relationship.
Sure, we have our set of arguments and disagreements. We have times when there is no speaking to each other. There are times when a lot of adjustments have to be made by both of us. Times when the husband has to baby sit and make dinner. Times when in-laws come over and everyone gives in their best to have a good time. Could I say that it might be easier to make adjustments in an arranged marriage. I’m not sure, but we all do have a good time with each other and when we are with family.
Then, I realize maybe it’s all about what we want from our lives. It seems to be important to realize what makes us happy and satisfied in our relationship. The time that we spend together might be watching a movie together or just sitting in the living room doing our own thing and realizing that we are around willing to leave everything if anyone of us called the other for small talk or sharing something funny. Having an open approach towards each other seems to be the most important aspect in a relationship for the partner to appreciate their relationship without the pressure of any sort. To be able to accept others point of view, understand it and realize that we can have our own point of view. However, that does not mean that their point of view is not right.
it’s all about understanding each other and providing an open environment to the time we share together.