There is a growing number of men who do not have an idea what it means to treat a woman or to take care of a woman more so when married. This however was expected.
When women empowerment came about, instead of taking the idea as a wholistic beneficial agenda for the whole society, they inclined towards making women feel like they can do without men. Fine.
So many ladies opted to be single, single motherhood skyrocketed.
Boys are growing up in homes where their mothers are constantly talking of how useless men are, constantly indicating they are only meant to empower girl child and totally neglect boy child, boys are growing up with women who continuously make them believe that they are inferior.
Worse are these pampered boys who get mothers who are trying to be super mums. They give them literally everything. They do not nurture the African attitude into the boys that men are real men if they can hunt and gather for their families, if they can protect their families, if they can sustain their families, uphold and ensure future continuity of the family. Instead the boys grow up to be sissy men, ball-less men who are used to being defended by women, seeing the most powerful figure in their lives as women, seeing women calling the shots, seeing women behaving like men and thus getting confused where the roles of a man begins or ends.
So, what do you expect when such a man gets married? Confused element who does not have an idea what is expected of him as a husband. He in fact expects his woman to provide for the family, after all he grew seeing his mother doing so! He expects his woman to take care of him, to foot the bills, to sustain the family etc. while he basks his ass in the house like a boy.
We are going in the wrong direction as the society. We should balance empowerment. Unless absolutely necessary single motherhood should be shunned so that the boys can grow knowing what it is to be a daddy.
Also, men who are married should up their games to set good examples to the growing boys. As men, let us show the young boys direction. Let us be responsible with our fatherly duties. Let us be loving and caring to our wives and families at large so that the boys will see us as examples.
Let us make boys to men before it is too late otherwise we shall end up with a totally dysfunctional society devoid of real men.
