I don’t think so we need to control our mind. We just need to teach our mind how to respond to different situations. And trust me, our mind is very quick learner.
We all have come here to experience different emotion. Feeling anger, sorrow, pain, pressure is just a part of our growing.
Unless we experience different emotions of life, we can’t expect our growth rate to reach high. I believe every emotion or feeling i have experienced or felt has took me one step ahead in my life. Yeah, sometimes it was not so good or else i say extremely bad, but that was worth it. I found those stretches truly made me better. May be not a better performer but certainly a better human.
Now, how you can teach it this good lesson:
Nothing is bad if we live in ditched mode. When we overly attached to a thing or person, we suffer
The job of our mind is to produce thoughts, it indulges us to think deeply, to think more. But unconsciously and due to lack of awareness, we get attached to every thought and label it with emotions. Thus, we keep pouring same hurt, same pain, the same fear, and sometimes same happiness again and again.
The process leads us to think more, gradually we become one with it, and find hard to leave the grip. Sometimes, we don’t even remember when and how we fall inside the case. We call it normal.
The vicious cycle, don’t do anything to our physical body but depletes our mental power. We feel exhausted and irritated.
Practice pause:
Your mind thinks in images, every word you speak creates a thought and every thought creates an image. Thought is nothing but a collective accumulation of the words. And every word is concerned with feeling or emotion or the memories stored in your mind.
When you become aware that your mind is constantly producing too many thoughts you have a chance to stop it. Pausing is a state of awareness. When you pause you become aware. You know what is happening inside your brain.
When you realize your mind is going out of control, try to see what you’re thinking, be a live witness, the moment you step inside your mind, it calms down. You find there is no thought. This is the pause.
This way, you and your thoughts will become separate, it will come but it will go away naturally. Soon, appearance and witness will merge.
This is not tough. I find it helpful to blank stare out of the closed window, gaze at the sky. Look at anything neutral, a white wall or ceiling. You can practice this anywhere, you don’t need to make a separate time for it.
and then practice it often:
Your self-made headache won’t cure within an hour or a day. Practice it for days if not weeks. Slowly and steadily, your brain will begin to relax.
