When people reach a certain age, they will feel bitter and tired. The most tired is the heart.People who are tired of the heart always feel that things are not going well and they can't achieve the results they expect.
The four people mentioned below live the most tired. See which one you are?
- People who pursue perfection in everything.
The Buddha said: "Imperfection is life".A person who is excessively pursuing perfection is very tired.The higher the expectation of one thing, the higher the probability of disappointment.Say for instance, spring is coming, you want a green meadow with wildflowers on it. When you walk into the the place that one dreams of to entangle, you see the grass, but the flowers are jagged, not what you want, But you don't know how to take things as they come, so you will be depressed.
Everyone who pursues perfection will stare at the imperfect place, just like you look at a scar on your body every day. Every day you look at it, you zoom in on the scars, expose the pain, and let your heart struggle. You will never get out of the "scar".
Learn to accept the imperfections of life, and comfort yourself with the thought that it is all very well. Even some people, will be a flaw also as an unexpected harvest, In this way, the heart is good, not Tired.
- People who like to think too much
"Thinking too much will ruin you." Think too much every day, is groundless worry. A thing, originally is a small thing, but you think every day, all kinds of results are predicted, but also think of the worst situation, so you feel uncomfortable and take them to heart.
The worst thing is to think about past love every day and not to let go. You know, the people you once loved are already with others. You are still dreaming that one day he will change his mind and return.Isn't this a "daydream"?
When someone jokes with you, you feel bad all day because you think you're serious. if you fail, you will feel that life has no hope; One nightmare and you're scared for a month...Such day, not tired just feel strange.
Everyone can only have one mind. If you think about everything and don't let go of anything, you will feel too full and have no place for any happiness.You should learn to let go, to make room for the soul, feel the beauty of life.
Think too much heart will be tired, You also suffer easily. The capacity of the mind is limited, It's easy to crash when you have too much stuff. Feelings can not hold too tight, Like sand in the hand, The more you try to hold on, the easier it is to slip away!
- Someone who have Heavy sentiment
If you have such characteristics, I can only unfortunately tell you that you must live more tired than others, because a lot of efforts and returns are often not immediate, Your efforts are easily overlooked by others, What you care about may not care so much about you, so this kind of person is often the most vulnerable to injury.
The Buddhist saying of "let it be（suiyuan）" is to tell me not to be such a person, because living too tired and departure and reunion are natural laws, and the same is true of feelings between people. We should also follow the law of nature. Too much affection is a kind of persistence. This persistence must be learned to let go. We can attach importance to sentiment, but we can not attach too much importance to sentiment. After all, no matter how deep the sentiment are, they are also intangible.
- People who are too capable to do things.
This kind of person must be very tired, because the more capable people, the greater the pressure, because a lot of things at home, you need to take care of. Because you have the ability, so many things can only be done by you, so you will live very tired.
In the novel 《Dream of Red Mansions》, Wang Xifeng is such a person. He is too shrewd and capable. Most of the time, he is busy, running and struggling for life. He seldom has time or calms down and enjoys the happiness of life. This kind of person is easy to succeed in his career, but easy to fail in his life.
If you have these characteristics and you are one of the four, then you should not be living a life of ease. To be comfortable, you must learn to change yourself
Focus on my words and walk into your heart.
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