Now, that should be the old rule: since it is worth the attention of the content, it must be read word by word and read again.
Read this sentence first:
All that can be bought with money is actually cheap.
This sentence is often misunderstood, certainly misunderstood, because the basic idea of the vast majority of people is wrong: the vast majority of people think that money is the most important. It is also easy to understand because they feel the difficulties of making money all the time in their lives. Because of the difficulties, so rare, because of rare, so important... seemingly very logical logic.
But we are different, we already know the important fact.
You have most valuable asset is your attention.
Your attention is the only resource that can make you produce, and your time is not necessarily yours, because time itself doesn’t automatically produce output... You look at the people around you (even including yourself before), useless time is so much, to what extent? More than you have to find a way to kill them (Killing time), so you involuntarily into the pits, not only the pit, but also the truth was feel very comfortable.
Now that we know the level of importance, in terms of value, the order is:
ATTENTION > TIME > MONEY
You see, under this value, money is actually the cheapest thing. So, they can use the money to save time, it is certainly worth making, because this is in low value assets in exchange for high value assets; and if they can use the money to ensure that their attention won’t be dispersed, it’s more cost-effective business, isn’t it?
From this point of view, it’s right to spend money on assistants. Some of the people who care about the quality of life will spend the money to let staff member come to the house for cleaning. In my opinion, this is a good deal (note, I don’t use “right or wrong”). You see how many families fight for the trifling chores, then you know how many people have completely wrong order of value. As long as you spend a few money, you can avoid quarrels, it’s more cost-effective.
Recently, I used “zhulilaiye” too much. What doing? It’s five yuan to ask someone to help me run leg, help me line up, buy a cup of Starbucks to come over. For me, these five yuan are really worth it. Because my typing speed, ten minutes can knock out hundreds of thousands of Chinese characters, to know that I get up to DeDao (Knowledge Learning APP) is only about two thousand words! Only five yuan can save me some time, and even help me keep more attention for ten minutes in writing articles. It is extraordinarily valuable for me.
I mentioned in an article that I used a series of means to eventually make no quarrel with my wife for more than 20 years...
Don’t care what is the means, you think first, how important is the result to me? Very important. Because in the past more than 20 years, I have never been in a bad mood all day or even days because of a quarrel with my wife. You have to know when people are in a bad mood, attention can’t be concentrated, what things aren’t doing well, whatever tomato time management methods and other things are more reasonable, they are actually useless at all, isn’t it?
Now look at what I used to do again. It’s very simple to say:
Spend enough time on her. If possible, spend enough money on her.
It takes time and energy to communicate. It doesn’t mean everything is automatically understood. Sometimes, it needs to be told many times. Even in a few cases, it needs to turn over and change patterns. It has been expounded several times from all angles until it has formed enough and perfect consensus with themself. Only in this way, it is to make will not be misunderstood, and it is impossible for one party to be at a loss...
Sometimes a lot of girls are very poor, this really doesn’t blame them, all blame the deformed society.
Growing up in a society that most people think girls should be stupid, most of them don’t have the awareness of taking the initiative to protest, so they are really deceived. In the meantime, this is a world of over-mythical love force. As a result, these unwittingly clumsy girls have been brainwashed by the whole society again in the face of love and become more clumsy.
Let’s take an example: the vast majority of girls that boys don’t respond to text messages in a timely manner, or don’t immediately pick up the phone, that is they don’t love themselves and don’t care about their performance...
For those of us who value their own attention, we have a clear idea that SMS is an asynchronous communication tool, and telephones are indispensable tools for instant messaging, each of which has its own uses. And for me, texting, phone calls and other things that may invade and occupy their own attention at any time are things that must be effectively prevented.
So, I already invented my own method:
The phone is always set to silent, all push notifications are turned off.
When I focus on things, I shouldn’t accept any interruptions. When I stop and rest, I can handle those unread messages and missed calls.
But how do I make my wife understand this seemingly simple and clear reason? Really can’t say it just once. To speak many times, it is necessary to use many facts to prove that the examples that can be encountered by each side can be displayed to her... What do I do to have any better for myself? Further, what are the main benefits for us? Why do people get angry when they can’t find me on the phone? What ridiculous is that anger from my perspective? And why is it so ridiculous? In what case is instant messaging necessary? In what case is asynchronous communication more effective? Since the two things are all communication tools, should they be combined to be more effective? So , what kind of strategy combination should be used? It’s not an exaggeration to say that the content of the matter between me and her can be sold out as a book.
There are many such examples, but nothing less than one essence:
I spend a lot of time with her to communicate effectively, so that I will not be interfered with meaninglessly, allowing my attention to have more sustained opportunities and more output.
This is my method, spending time in exchange for attention.
By the way, the fundamental reason many families are unhappy is that there is too little time to invest in each other: that is real reason.
As we said before, our goal is that one day in the future, we will never need to sell out time for life. Because selling time is not cost-effective, because the value of time is higher than the value of money. Now can give another explanation of the angle:
The reason why you can sell time, because on the whole, spend more money to buy time is more cost-effective!
Write these words on a piece of paper, you can see at any time on the place, even repeated reading, reading aloud repeatedly until it is in your mind carve out a new channel to date, so as to make this sentence since then in your mind subtly play its role.
All the time that money can be bought is cheap, and every attention that can be paid over time is worth.
The same is true of this sentence, so that it carved a new ditch in your mind.
In the next week, hope everyone will focus their attention thinking:
1.In the past, what are the most valuable things you pay for?
2.In the past, where are you can produce value but you wasting time and attention in places?
3.Over the past period of time, how many times have you been in a bad mood because of a quarrel with your family?
4.If you need to keep your attention and be disturbed again and again, have you ever come up with any effective countermeasures?
5.Where do you ignore the order of the value of the assets, and you get a big loss?
【The previous chapter】
开始前的正式邀请 Before the formal invitation
[Financial Freedom] What is the most valuable asset you have?
[Financial Freedom] We refocused our attention
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