I hear you, I agree with the concept of "why ask if you can apologize" approach to morality you are posing here. Then again morality has been sincerely diluted in accordance with opinion and society's approach leaving a doorway to guilt driven mentality based on the other's opinion and expectation of you based on their own agenda rather than your own. I am actually currently dealing with the same topic in my meditations working on finding a place for myself that is faraway from societal/parental guilt trips based on their preference in life rather than what is actually beneficial. So thank you for this article.