My fellow Hive platform members, in few episodes of my write ups, I will be writing on the imperative of family, which comprised of the father, mother and children. I will in this episode and my subsequent write-ups like to inform, educate and entertain us about the essential ingredients that is required in building a good and happy homes. So, in my up coming write ups, efforts would be made to outline some crucial qualities necessary in the upbringing of children in leadership which I caption foundational leadership keys for kids. However, character, perspective, courage, and favour are the pivot upon which all the other leadership skills radiate. I will be made to talk on each of them in bits and pieces in my subsequent write-ups.
What matters most should not be a long list of countless things, but handful of principles that are central to life and goals, and how we parents can master them to mentor our kids. What matters most is also the interaction and relationship that exists between parents and their children. The kind of relationship that exists between God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit is the perfect pattern of the relationship between parents and their children.
Once a child is born to the world, of course into a family, there are some basic fundamental parent-child responsibilities that must be laid bare from the beginning. Good parenting always begins with some central truth that borders on the type of family in which you must have to ensure your children's proper upbringing. Is family not the most important circle in the life of an individual? Is it not from the family that children are meant to imbibe quality leadership skills and virtues at a period wherein lies bright hope, and quick adaptability for life journey? The Holy Bible admonishes us parents by saying " Teach a child how he or she should live and behave well, and when the child grows up he or she will not depart from it ( Prob, 22-6),
These principles are the foundations. They matter the most. It does not matter what you know if you do not know what matters. Parents must communicate the principles that really count and can only be proactive when we have settled the issues we believe are important. If we fail to do this, we can only react and do damage control. Parents should prioritize what is important. How do you react to problems and how do you view life and it's philosophy?.
Good parenting means nurturing kids blessed with patience and fortitude in following their principles and their beliefs, then their Noble deeds will become almost like miracles in the sight of men. Parenting is simply about mentoring, and mentoring is like leaving a legacy by teaching life-long lectures to the children. It is the leaving of memorable impressions on the kids and always looking forward to achieving just that all through their lives. As a parent, can you truly describe your role to your children as a genuine mentor or as an adviser and consultant? While advisers and consultants can be very helpless, true mentors are effective partly because they are only interested in helping others succeed.
It is of utmost importance that the children enjoy steadfastness on their principles, because they are the ones to lead tomorrow, and if their affairs are in order, then the life of the people will be in order. On the other hand, if they fall into deviance and wickedness , fall victim to worldly desire, or become corrupt by their environments, then the world will become as corrupt as they are. Even, Christ Jesus calls us sons and daughters of LIGHT, SALT into the Earth (Mathew 5: 13-16). Let us build and mould good children on whose shoulders Nations and future civilizations would be established.
The foundation to build in parent child relationship must be based on love, trust, openness, honour obedience, discipline, and provision. As a young person, you should always, like Jesus, Live in the consciousness of the presence of God and your parents, such that whenever you are, whatever you do and whatever decisions you take, you comport yourself as though your parents are watching you.
Truly, there should be continuous whatcha of parents on their children. The parents should engaged in ceaseless vigilance on them. the word is eternal vigilance; from cradle to the grave. God has appointed parents to be watchmen over their children and they shall be held responsible for their actions or inactions ( Ezekiel 33:7-9). This means being there, for them and with them. Psalm 140:6 reminds us that as watchmen wait for the dawn, so should parents eagerly watch onto the children to maturity. Watch over them where they are and not where they suppose to be, at home, at school, church, even in the social media. Locate the particular social networks where your kids are linked to a d join them; to know the kind of friends they are keeping and their discussion points.
Many kids take advantages of their parents' ignorance to indulge in various nefarious acts including posting nude pictures on the net. It has been observed that some parents abandon their children to roam about or play dirty tricks at dark corners of the church premises, or even outside while they are clutching their hands praying superciliously . To be a good watchman, occasionally, leave where you are to locate and ascertain where and what your kids are actually doing, such that, finding them at the appropriate mode, your lessons will make a perfect positive impact. Good parenting means speaking out discreetly to our kids on all issues without keeping quiet; but do not provoke them to wrath (Eph. 6:4, Prob.3:1-4). Dear parents, he who has ear, let him hear. Here I will rest my case.