One of the biggest traps we fall into is forcing change, such as trying to discipline ourselves and saying to ourselves, "I have to do this."
"I have to lose weight." "I have to work harder." That very push is the subconscious working against the end result.
Any time you tell yourself you "have to" do something, it is the job of your subconscious to say, "No, you don't." "You don't have to do anything." "I'll get you out of it." And with creative avoidance, procrastination or in any way possible, you find a way not to do it.
When you say, "I have to," you are saying "I have to, but if I had my own way, I would rather be doing something else."
The harder you try to do something, the more you work against your natural subconscious creative mechanism.
When I recognize I can, I choose to or I want to change because it is my idea to become like that, then I have a power around me that most people have chosen to give up. Once I recognize I am a self-made person both in success and failure and that this success or failure is mine to control, I will stop saying "I have to," and instead say "I choose to."
I can be as my image tells me I can and move constructively toward that end result with an exciting, magnetic energy and drive.