Learn from your failures. Understand that failures are not losses. Feel the pain of the failure deep and make it hurt so that you do not make the same mistake. Count that as a win. When you follow through on a promise you made yourself, feel that win and make it huge in your mind. Take intentional mental notes of every single victory. Eventually you will know you are a winner and winning is contagious! Eventually this will lead to huge wins and huge goal accomplishment in life. Everyone is a winner if they chose to be and winning is everything.