You are 100% right. Sometimes what you wanted in the past isn't what is best for you now. Most people are not in touch with themselves. Again, I agree with you that the how is not the most important thing. The why is the most important thing and for you to truly understand your why, you need to know who you truly are.

By knowing who you are, you are able to know what things you value most in your life, and by knowing what you value most, you are able to take the actions you need to have more of it. I do not meaning physical things, but I mean the intangible things like having peace of mind, fulfillment, happiness, love, personal growth, giving back, certainty, adventure, creativity... I could go on.

By knowing who you are at your core, you will know what things you value. If you value peace of mind for example, you may want to achieve something that will give you greater peace of mind. The "why "is peace of mind, and the "what" could be financial freedom. The "how" could be a dog grooming business. The "how" matters, but not as much as the what and certainly not as much as the why. Today, running a dog grooming business may feel like the best path to having the financial freedom that you hope will give you the peace of mind that you want. In time you may discover that owning a dog grooming business does not give you any peace of mind, but it does the opposite.

The method is important, but it can never be more important than the original "why".

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