Hi Steemians! Happy 2018. I trust that the new year has been kind to you. If not, we're only just starting and it will certainly get better.
Let's talk about self-confidence.
We will agree that having a great amount of self-confidence is one of the best skills a person can possibly have. In addition to it's many benefits, there is no denying the appeal that comes with exuding self-confidence, it is so darn attractive.
I remember having a talk with a client who needed me to write him a copy, as we spoke, he casually mentioned that he was one of best tech guys in town.
That struck me, I wanted to include that in the copy, that this product was designed by one of the best people in town but he objected to the idea, because to him, that would sound like he was bragging. (Well, yeah you have to brag about your skills and products once in a while because, being so damn good buys you a bragging right in our competitive world). He liked modesty.
That felt a bit strange because I was not used to that. I have a friend who would even get foolhardy by throwing in the line 'Because, I'm Angelica 'Freaking' Daniel as though she could go to the bank with it. I mean I get the whole concept of modesty and all, but if you're aiming to stand out from a fiercely competitive crowd, modesty would probably have to move back 1 pew, and self-confidence would have to take over 100 percent.
Now, what are the ways in which you could possibly build your shelf-confidence, let's look at them:
1. Know your strengths and leverage on them
We all have our flaws but so do we also have our strengths, and while our minds often try to make us aware of our flaws, one way to boost your self-confidence is to accept the flaws but also, to focus on the strengths, those things you are good at, focus on them, improve on them and even be the best at them.
2. Talk Positive to yourself
Nothing builds your self-confidence quickly as talking positively to yourself. Stop criticizing yourself so harshly and give yourself a break. Allow yourself to make mistakes but see the lessons in it. Remind yourself how beautiful and amazing you are. Do this regularly until it becomes natural then watch your self-confidence grow.
3. Remove all toxic people from your life.
One great way to improve on your self-confidence is by getting rid of those people that would delibrately seek to bring you down. See those friends who make an unhealthy competition? Those ones who would hurt you to make themselves feel better? You really don't need them. Cut off such ties and move away from all that negativity. You deserve better.
4. Learn to accept failure and rejection.
Your sense of self-confidence would greatly improve if you could accept failure and rejection as a normal part of life and never try to let them define you. So you failed at a task, great. Look at the bright side, you definitely found out a way that would not solve your problem, and that means that you discovered a way to help people save their time by not doing what you did. Try again until you succeed and then you can share with us all, how you did it.
5. Appreciate your little victories.
While you want to achieve and keep achieving, taking some time off to appreciate your little victories can boost your self-confidence. It will remind you that if you were able to do this, then you could do more.
