In life, you have to understand that not everyone who laughs with you truly means well for you. In fact, even your very own trusted friends might not even be your true friends but might just be a friendly enemy to get close to you, get details from you and use them against you. This is why you have to know the details you limit from the third party and then beware of wolfs who carry sheep clothings. Ironically, that someone comes to smile with you does not mean that they are your well-wisher. A friend once said that "the enemy that kills, most times, does not come with a gun but with a smile." So beware.
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You need to understand that every single person who comes around you cannot be your friend. That they pretend to have your back does not mean that they truly do. When a real situation arises, you will know if what you have is friend or fiend. A friend who cannot defend you at your back but claims to stand by you in your presence is nowhere near being your friend. A true friend should be to you at your back what they are in your presence. If you cannot point out to any good thing you have benefited from your friendship with someone, then you do not need anyone to tell you that they are not your friend.
You have to pay attention to your friends and do not take any detail for granted. Fake friends cannot completely mask their fakeness, but you need to pay attention to discern them. You do not have to start telling someone your secrets without being sure about their stance with you. In addition to this, there are some secrets that you do not have any business divulging to even your most trusted friend. What people do not have enough knowledge of, they can hardly ruin. Sometimes, they only need more details about you to be able to determine your strength and weakness and then know how to get at you.
As a matter of fact, when someone who claims to be your friend always tells you secrets about someone else, then you should not trust them. It is very obvious that if they can tell you secrets about someone else, then your own secrets are not safe with them because they will tell others about them. How your friends treat the other of their friends at their back is exactly how they will treat you at your back, so pay attention to them. If a friend cannot defend their friends at their back but would join others to defame them, then you should also expect the same thing with them, so you should limit the kind of trust you place on such people. Do not allow people to gain full access to your secrets nor know too much about you.
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Another way to spot a wolf disguising as a sheep is that, if you tell your friend a good news and you can sense some traces of jealousy in them, either in words or in expression, then you should distant yourself from the person. They can be secretly in competition with you without even you knowing and they can create obstacles for you just to make sure that you do not surpass them. On the same hand, if a friend wants you to do well but not as much as they do, or always feeling threatened if you are succeeding more than them, then they are not your true friend and you should beware of them.
If you have a friend that, each time you have a challenge or experience bad things, they will come to sympathise with you and even pledge their assistance, but if you have good news, they will not come to celebrate with you or congratulate you; you should distant yourself from the person. I mean, are they expecting only bad and challenging things to be happening to you so that they will come to sympathise with you? Why will they not want good things to happen to you so that they will come to celebrate with you? Anyone with this mentality about you should not be your friend. Your friend should not just be around you when things are going "somehow" but should also stick around, without feeling threatened, when it seems you are doing better than them.
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