Greetings my lovelies <3
So to commemorate Valentine's Day, I would like to have a little discussion about the concept of loneliness.
Have you just been waiting your whole life for Mr./Mrs. Right to come along and save you from your loneliness?
That's usually a resounding, "YES! How can I find him/her!?"
But if you can't stand being alone with yourself, then how can you expect someone else to stand being alone with you?
So many of us forgo the process of discovering who we are and building on that, and instead wait for someone to come along and impregnate us with a personality and a sense of purpose.
One of my not so famous Kehlyn quotes is, "Be the person you would want the person you would want to love to love. And then love that person."
Read it a few times. It's tricky I know. How would you even be able to spot your beloved Mr./Mrs. Right if you don't even know who you are?
Obviously who we are will always be an unfinished adaptation susceptible to all sorts of influences, so there never really is a stage of ripeness that we can present to our future lover as our absolute self. But our core being is supposed to decide which influences to absorb and which are just a dead skin in need of a good sloughing.
Which is exactly why we keep having all these "bad relationships" that just end up just being a "waste of time".
In my opinion, no relationship is ever a waste of time.
Dating is mostly trial and error.
Lots of error.
Again and again until we finally figure out what we don't want for ourselves.
Does that mean our exes are all bad people?
Less often than we realize. They may just be someone else's Mr./Mrs. Right, and we may have helped them come closer to figuring out who that is.
But in the meantime, until Mr./Mrs. Anybody comes along to try on the glass slipper, have you even started building your palace?
YOUR palace. YOUR life. You only get one you know. And after all this talk of Mr./Mrs. Right, I regret to inform you that they probably don't exist. Human beings have far too many facets for one person to be perfect for another. But you DO exist. So learn to love yourself like you're all you've got.
Every Monday I will be serving up a fresh batch of music to broaden your universe, and if you like what you hear, you should upvote, resteem, follow me, and/or leave a comment with some of your favorite music, and/or your own opinions on the matter at hand, so that together we can reach the rest of the universe. Or not. The choice is always yours.
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