Good morning Africa and those who are experiencing daylight ...or not as of the time of reading this write up.
The beauty of life can only be seen, felt and appreciated when we have a close shave with death. The death there might not be referring to strictly death, it also refers to other forms of death like something as little as a creative death (writer's block) for any blogger.
In perilous times, we find friends among uncommon enemies and we make enemies among common friends. The beauty of it is that we learn, we push ahead, we adapt and we re-strategize.
The man who succeeds is one who knows when to act and when not to, because timing is everything and a split second decision or indecision can make or mar you.
Anger
Anger is a fuel which drives people off a cliff. No one ever did anything with anger as a source of inspiration. The reason is because anger only tilts you towards a certain direction, usually in that single direction without allowing for room to explore other directions.
So many people have been killed because of anger and so many others lost precious loved ones, decisive wars and battles, their birthrights, kingdoms and even made mistakes during decisive moments all because of anger.
I have made up my mind not to let anger get the better of me, usually people don't know why I say I might feel upset and yell, but I am not angry. It is because when I speak of my hurts, I let it all go, but when I bottle it in, that is when I am most dangerous.
I became a talkative because of that drive to let that anger go. That brings me to a point, anger should not drive you, instead drive anger...away.
Sometimes it is okay to be angry, but remember that anger, if left unchecked, will lead to rage which is more dangerous.
Do you know that there is a connection between sportsmen and angry people? The connection is adrenaline, this hormone which gives the famous "fight or flight" response is found in both people. That is why hyperactive people make good sports people and why hyperactive people are usually agitated easily.
Sometimes it's okay to take a deep breathe, limit your words, say sorry to cushion the effect where need be, re-evaluate your words and like I said know the good and bad sides of your anger and react accordingly.
Anger has caused me a lot of things, although when I look back I still stand to reason it was probably for the best. There is no time to get angry, if you want to live long, vex less.
I have one of those faces whereby you can easily confuse me for an angry person because I actually make faces without knowing. I guess it is something that has been a part of me since when I was a child, I was the kind of child who only talked after committing an atrocity. My words were precious.
I guess I started building anger when after years of compartmentalizing pain, I felt everyone easily took me for granted, which was true, because people knew I would just opt to suffer in silence. A classic example was when my primary school teacher was always eating the meals my mum used to pack for me to school.
I was starving in school but opted to suffer in silence because all my martial arts training in Karate and Taekwondo always centered on finding inner peace.
It got to a point, I could remember my dad (who was my first Karate) teacher told me "No Irabor has ever been taken for a fool, No Irabor has ever been timid."
That changed my life, actually he told me that after I fell sick eventually and since then, I made a vow, I was going to love people, but the day someone asks me who I am, I was going to take the pain to actually show the person who I am.
I realized because I was taught to be silent, does not mean I was trained to be stupid. I give love, but then there's a limit I reach that I re-evaluate.
That was how I became the person I am today.
Who am I
I am a guy you cannot predict his next reaction or move, someone who is always two steps ahead and someone who loves chess.
I am the only copy of me in this world, someone easily misunderstood, but who actually understands.
I am a Content curator|Mentor|Pace setter|Philanthropist|knowledge hunter|Community builder|Administrator|Loves others|Determined|All round swell guy
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