Pendulum Dowsing is not all I have used - although it is part of the recipe... I think first one must become aware of the fragmentation and see the havoc it is wreaking in one's life and become ready to integrate. This is a process which for me, has taken years.
The Wounded Inner Child
I came from a violent alcoholic family and therefore I personally have 4 parts - the wounded inner child, the inner teenager, the inner critical parent and me - the one who is recovering - the one who, according to the ACA people - would be the inner loving parent.
Preparatory Work
I had to encounter a life / death situation for myself in order to surrender internally to having to unify the broken parts.
However, I have some other issues which make that impossible, so for me - I am the big sister and I made God my inner loving parent.
The Loving Parent Guidebook (LPG)
I got the book, The Loving Parent Guidebook, from Ebay - but I see now the ones on Ebay are more expensive so you can just get it here. - and it is also available for free on Anna's Archive, but I found having a hard-copy was essential once I got serious about this.
Meetings - Having A Fellowship Is Important
I went to a meeting which I found on this site - and I did not like it - but mind you, I have recovered in other fellowships, so I did not really need "another" fellowship or program as I have one that works just fine - but I don't know your situation - so I do recommend having a fellowship of people to support you through the process because it definitely felt ooky at times...
There are phone / online meetings available on the site you can find and there is a good sub-reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/AdultChildren/ to help with identification and other information...
Reading The LPG Without Doing The Exercises, First
I read the LPG for about 8 months with friends on the phone... I think just reading it without doing the exercises really helped a LOT. I began to also talk to my inner child using my left-hand as the inner child - in a notebook - and I continue to do that today. That has worked for me.
The Emotion Code
I also used the emotion code to remove trapped emotions from my heart wall - that took a year - and was necessary preparation as well - this is also free to learn how to do - you can get the audio book or the book - teach yourself muscle testing, then remove the trapped emotions...
Soul Retrieval
Now, regarding the energy healing: here is the recipe for that... and it is referred to as "soul retrieval" and it is not a one and done at all - which is why I can't "dowse for you" as you request - this is something you will have to do for yourself...
Learn Dowsing
To learn to dowse is easy - use the Letter to Robin book - I did it in about 2 weeks - here is a site dedicated to it - or you can download it from the internet - it's a free pdf. I provided in my post here. https://lettertorobin.wordpress.com/ - mind you, I did watch a bunch of Raymon Grace's videos on youtube, I talked to people on Facebook in his group and I also joined my local chapter...but another friend, in Romania, has none of these resources, and he is the one who introduced me to this - and he is doing fine with the materials he has access to - we have both bought some of Raymon's videos, etc. All of his books are available online for free, although I did buy a copy of The Future Is Yours used on ebay - for about $10 and that has basically everything in it.
https://www.youtube.com/@raymongrace7699
Having learned to dowse - you then use the chart to find out what percentage your soul is in your body. You can also find out what percentage your soul was in your body at birth - (I had a difficult birth as well as the other horrible things that came after).
You will have to dowse this over and over, and probably for each part - so for example - what percentage does my inner critical parent still occupy my Aura today? ...30% I just got ... then I ask, "am I ready to integrate it?" - I get a YES on the chart - so I asked - "God, please change the frequency of the inner critical parent so that she is integrated with the rest of me." - so it swings counter clockwise for a while and then clockwise for a while - then stops.
I felt some weird feelings while that was happening. Then I asked, what percentage does my inner teen still occupy in my Aura today? and I got 40% but then I got a NO when I asked if I could integrate her.
This is not ALL I am doing - I am also paying attention throughout the day to thoughts and feelings in my body that make me fee like I am "wrong" - because my inner critical parent has gotten good at hiding - and the other parts - I try to notice when I go into "fight" - which is the teen. You will observe this more when you can read the LPG.
Raymon does have a video on the Soul Retrieval process - in which he does it for you and/or teaches you to do it - and you can play it over and over - It's called A Healthy Mind And Body and is available for sale on his website - https://www.raymongrace.us/
I did Raymon's soul retrieval video myself but I didn't feel anything like the weird feelings I just felt when I did myself - which tells me that having him do it for me on video is lightweight compared to what I can do for myself...
My experience with this is that it really only works when I am willing to do it myself, because that proves to my subconscious that I am ready to take full responsibility for myself (with God) - and therefore I will be able to handle it.