Because heating things up for the first time is never as smooth or sexy as you imagine it'd be.
How many times have you met a new woman/potential love interest and fantasized about how incredible the sex is going to be with her? And how often did that first time meet your expectations?
It's more realistic to expect the first time to be awkward than it is to expect it to be magical," says Emily deAyala, sex therapist and marriage and family therapist. "When you go in with realistic expectations, you're less likely to feel let down."
