Hector? What it is is that TOR has an elitist perspective of the romance marketplace. He has an illusion in his head that every man on the face of this planet should fit the mold of a glittering prom king that he has concocted in his mind; and if a man does not fit that same mold, then he believes that such a man is morally challenged in some surreptitious shape, way or form. I used to work for someone like that, and everyone in my office hated having him for a boss. When he left our office, nobody wanted to organize a going-away party for him. At the end of the day, the world has become a very scary place for men and a much more promising place for women.