Teenage murderer in Uttara'; 'Friend to friend kill'; 'Adolescents that are becoming terrible in the name of gang culture'; 'Adolesan, Sudipta, Himu, Diaz and other youths have been printed on the pages of the headlines -' The boys have killed the boy in Chittagong, the boys have been killed in public streets by calling from the home of Chittagong '. They were brutally murdered. The matter of deep regret is that most of them have been murdered by friends or relatives in the same age group.
In the media, we know that a friend runs a knife in another friend's chest, the friend pelted from the roof and chased another friend or a group, beaten him to death, and killed a teenager. Sometimes a dog is slaughtered and close friend! The headline of the news is, the guardians scold, the sensitive reader's two eyes wiggle but the procession of death does not stop.
Where is the problem? Why can not friends be friends, what is so angry anger or jealousy that turns a man into a monster at once. Why are friends so cruel? What does our children read in school-college, make them violent? Can not family education make them tolerant, or are the technology and the media responsible for their intolerance? It is not right to think that the matter is only limited to our country, this intolerance around the world is limited, this intolerance around the world. Those who have studied the human mind and society, tried to find out the reasons for this cruelty, atrocity.
There are three components in the human mind structure. Ed, EGo and Super Ego. Eid to control the demands of all our desires. He only wants to satisfy us, no matter how. Super Ego wants to bind us into our morality. Ego by balancing the balance between these two. To protect the balance, it can be called the Ego Defense Mechanism. When humans are managed by ED, their brutal instincts are heading. Ede's influence is behind cruelty and violence. As a result, when a friend invades another friend, his Super Ego is defeated, he is losing his human skills as a result of the Ego Defense. Now, who will resist (resist) Ego, how to protect yourself from the influence of Edd, depends on the development of childhood, family environment, social education, institutional education and physical structure of his society and culture in his childhood.
Cognitive development and morale development in childhood, if it is abnormal, can lead to cruelty and cruelty. While explaining the development phase of human morality, US researcher Lawrence Kohlberg described three levels. In order to avoid the punishment for the first few years of birth, children obey the rules, then they agree with the social rituals to recognize their work in puberty, they want to be honored with the 'good boy' or 'good girl'.
At the age of 16-17, which begins at the third level of moral development, he continues to explain morality with his own conceptual world. If he believes in the world of his concept, this convention is 'not right', then he wants to change his surroundings. The method of change can be in a conventional way or with a belief in its own beliefs. He explains any path to this change with his own logic. A young man's psychology is turning to cruelty and aggression. He considers extremism and cruelty to be fair. Cruelty, cruelty, and cruelty are the only ways to understand his affair. Friends and loved ones are absolutely worthless.
Where culture and economics go into a unrealistic juncture, this ruthlessness is very rare. Colorful lamp, LED advertising, skychain glass house can not be expanded with the balance of youth's mind. The human development of the child has stumbled repeatedly to social immoral practices. The biggest thing we do not accept; Because of ignorance, I have once again denied knowing things.
Many times it may seem to be 'insignificant' due to such cruelty-killing a friend! But in reality, the reason for doing this work is not 'trivial'. His cognitive (cognition) (cognition) made the 'trivial' thing bigger, then his moral idea (Morality) forced him to behave violently. Maybe it does not hesitate to kill a friend for a little money, or a girl of her choice. If a child is physically or psychologically abused in his childhood, then in future he or she may have an aggression or aggression.
Two important issues are involved with aggressive behavior of teenagers and youth. One is the mental problem of another child and adolescent drug. Drugs are just chemical substances. The normal functioning of the brain is interrupted once it is accepted. We say, the monsters have entered the man. Under the influence of this demon named Monk, a young man forgets his ethics, education and civilization. Harassment and atrocity did not bring any remorse in it.
There is evidence of drug addiction with almost most of these teenage youths published in the pages of the magazine. Due to drug abuse, the crime-stolen mobile phone business, business, hijacking, extortion, stigma, threats, and many other crimes started to get involved in the conflict between the conflict and the conflict - from there to big crime like murder. And the mental problem that children and teenagers are not often given importance is the Conduct Disorder (behavioral problem). We think that the child with this problem is disobedient or unwelcome. They lie, steal, easily dispute with others, harass, break social norms, commit social crimes, run schools, addiction, and sometimes teenagers are involved in the gang. Family and socially, these things are not considered as diseases, but in reality it is a mental illness for children and adolescents around the world. This type of murder also leads to crime like murder.
Violence also arises due to the influence of technology and media. The American Psychological Association advised not to watch children under the age of two years of age. There are some games where attacks and counter-attacking techniques are practiced, these games create violence among children and teenagers. Apart from provocative websites, there can be atrocities among teenagers. Sometimes there is a false belief which they consider as an ideology, such as extremism, militancy, religious frenzy, etc. Even among the youth, violence takes place and they do not have any remorse for violent behavior.
- Study ethics in the family. Most of the children learn to develop morality in the family. So do not commit immoral behavior in the child or encourage immoral behavior.
- No rude behavior can be made against the baby in front of the child. Children's attitude of cruel behavior becomes aggressive. Without disrespecting the child's behavior, she taught her discipline.
- Prevent children from seeing offensive or murder scenes on television, mobile phones or computers. Small aggressive scenes can have a big impact on the child's mind. Many times he may be motivated to kill another by seeing the murder scene. Encourage them to watch good movies and shows.
- Keep in mind, if the child is taking drugs, bring him into medical treatment once he starts taking drugs.
- Provide medical treatment through a rapid psychiatrist if there is a disobedient behavior or contract disorder in the child.
- Parents should not be ashamed about who they are. Get acquainted with the parents of friends. Identify their home.
- Suddenly watch the signs of any militancy in the child (read books, behavior change, change of speech etc. in support of extremism), beware. Talk to him and consult the law enforcement agencies if necessary.
- You also know what your child is reading a book, and what kind of website is going on. But do not have secret surveillance, keep an open relationship with your child, learn from him.
- If you suddenly see expensive mobile phones in the hands of the child, be careful to see him spend more money out of his handpicked. Know the source of these
- Avoid family disputes in front of him, keep family beautiful and orderly.
- Teach a lot of tolerance among children from childhood, especially to teach others to respect religious values or beliefs. Do not condemn his friend, classmate, teacher or relative in front of a child.
- The natural, natural process of attracting children and children to the opposite sex. It is easy for parents to take this issue. Regarding this with the child
Talk to her overtime, as well as try to build her respect for the opposite sex. - Try to make schools more humanitarian. Children spend a great time at school, so teachers' behavior often affects them. So there should be to avoid all kinds of cruelty, ridicule or comparison.
- Let the children read books of the world's literature. Build textuality among them.
- Failure of success also be an aspect of life, teach the child to accept failure, so parents should also adopt a failure. He has to 'be', 'get', refrain from giving such goals.
- For child's offense ÿ will not be cleared If you face any crime, then you give neutral opinion. Avoid pushing the child aggressively and aggressively towards fierce anger.