Value for value. It's funny, so many people like on Instagram will comment and be like, "Dude, I want you to just post this motivational thing all the time." Sometimes I use Instagram just to share with my friends what I'm doing. I don't always want to add value, I don't always have to post the inspirational meme, I don't always have to add a YouTube video that's for somebody and I want to comment back, I never do. I want to be like well, what are you doing for me? Like you're on my Instagram. What have you done for me? I'm not on yours.
Those are the type of people that are takers and the other scientific term for that is WTR, Welfare Trade-off Ratios. They want to take from my welfare but add no value back to my welfare. Dr. David Buss told me, "Watch people who have a skewed WTR ratio." It's bad. He said, "You almost always end up regretting knowing them and spending time with them." Smoke them out is what I call it. Do stuff that kind of smokes out the haters, then you know that they're people that don't add value, and they just want to take.
Let’s say you throw something out and they say, "Hey, I don't think you should do that because x, y, z." They give you a nice logical reply, that's constructive, that's like look, we're all going to the same place together, we're trying to improve incrementally. They say, “I don't see this getting you what you want, so why don't you tweak it?” They might be rough, they might be rude, but who cares? They're still offering value so don't cut them off because sometimes you see people cutting off people that are offering value just because they're a little rude and abrupt. Sometimes abrupt works, sometimes we all need abrupt.
Who's somebody in your life that you realize you need to phase them on out or maybe you need to offer a little more value to them, see if they reciprocate back? If they don't, than you know what to do.
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