There is an important issue concerning marriage that I would like us to address. It is a problem that we must single out and nip it in the bud. Discussions like this might be saving some marriages from this ugly experience of FAMILY INTERFERANCE.
A friend of mine met a beautiful girl and developed interest in her. After some years of their courtship, his mind was all made up to marry the girl. He was a young, handsome man; he could be in his early thirties but he was the last born of his parents. He owned a very big shop where he deals on motto parts and was doing fine in the business.
The girl; a very young, beautiful lady, an accountant, and she came from a good family which explained her good manners and wife materialism. She would cook and do some home chores each time her fiancée invited her over his parent’s house. Her man had invited her to the parent’s house to stylishly make his intention of marrying her known to them.
The prospective couple felt that the both families saw the handwriting on the wall and had accepted the new development, and had gone on their respective ways in making adjustment and preparations for their union as husband and wife.
Observing the traditions, introduction date was fixed and was duly honored.
After both families had given their consent to their marriage, the date for the wedding was fixed. The sharing of invitation card ensued, interior decorator was arranged and other preparatory arrangements were put in place.
Then some weeks to the wedding day, something happened –something so goofy and annoying. This was the part of the story that irked me so much and which motivated this post. It was this part that I had tried to wrap my head over, but to no avail.
A lady from the family of the man woke up one fateful morning and said that the marriage should be aborted. When she was asked to provide her reasons, all she could come up with was this, “As the first daughter of the house, I have come to realize that our wife to be won’t make a good husband to our brother and therefore, I am terminating it. I’m calling it off.” Such an insane thing to say and even more silly to accept.
Investigations conducted revealed that the supposed FIRST DAUGHTER had a few fracases with the prospective wife. As was learnt, the fracas was majorly because the prospective wife had refused to be manipulated by THE FIRST DAUGHTER’S domineering attitude. But I ask, is this enough reason for a whole serious issue like marriage to be cancelled?
Like joke, THE FIRST DAUGTER had gone overboard to influence the mother (the Dad died before the wedding date was fixed) and her other siblings. Every one of them almost immediately aligned to her tune and unanimously agreed that the marriage should be cancelled for no just cause.
When the entire immediate family did not give their consent, the kinsmen had to curl up and stay away from the matter.
Eventually, my friend despite family interference, he went ahead with the marriage plans. Marriage certificates were signed and issued; pictures were taken and they did well to celebrate their marriage like every other, but without his immediate family.
Years have passed. My friend now has THREE KIDS, yet his immediate family had formed a formidable team against my friend’s nuclear family and had refused to yield to forgiveness.
My own family is just damn lucky that they are well civilized to the extent of not having the tendency to play this kind of joke with me. I will not only disown them if they do, but I will label them my arch enemy. You cannot attempt to steal my joy away from me and still want to be family. I would say, “Good riddance to bad rubbish.”
If you were in the shoes of this couple, what would you have done?
This is 21st century, but it's unfortunate that some of us are yet to conform.
Rubbish and Nonsense family interference over marriages!!
Don’t be the devil to quell people’s marriage proposal. You are not a witch or a wizard. Tueh!
Selah!!
