Most of us find it difficult to say no to things, but this often has negative effects on our time and energy. From now on, select the situations when someone really needs your help, learn to say no more often and you’ll be happier.
We enjoy being liked by everyone and we think that if we’re not always there for everyone, people won’t appreciate us anymore, but that’s not true. True friends will understand that there will be moments when we need to take care of ourselves first.
Next time, when you tend to say yes but in your mind the answer is no, close your eyes for a second and change your answer.
You can be anything, but you can’t be everything! I strongly believe that we can become what we want, but we’re only human and we can’t do absolutely everything. Why? Because we don’t have super powers.
Because we’re afraid of being impolite, we say yes when we want to say no. But when you tell somebody “no”, all you’re doing is to make it clear that you’re in the driver’s seat and you choose your own road. So when you refuse something, you’re not a bad person, you’re just mature.
It might feel uncomfortable at first, I must admit. You might even be a little anxious, worrying that people will hate you. But with time, you’ll find out how easy it is to speak your mind and be in control of your own life. Take this for example: when someone asks you to do something, take a moments to put things in balance.
Ask yourself “is this going to make me feel good? It will make me happier?”. If the answer is yes, then go for it. But if the answer is no, don’t do it just because you want to be appreciated by others.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t help people! I’m saying that you should only do what you want to do! If helping a friend in need makes you happy, do it. If giving a homeless man money makes you smile, do it.
But don’t let people manipulate into doing whatever they want you to do just because they’re used to always receiving “yes” for an answer. I guarantee you that when you’ll learn to live like this, you’ll have a better life.
-Thanks, 
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