Yesterday, we discussed the significance of yes and no. Both are equally important. As humans, voicing no to an opportunity, person or task isn’t easy. Try recalling the last time you said no to someone.
How do you feel when someone reject you?
We feel sad or dejected. We have associated the word no with negative emotions. That’s why it is difficult to reject your boss or elders. Probably, we don’t want to disappoint or hurt someone. Moreover, no has been related to selfishness too. So, we may feel morally bound to say yes. Additionally, we have the fear of losing friends, if we say no to them for any help.
How does saying no help us?
We have more freedom over our time, the most precious currency of the universe. Speaking no reflects, you are more focused on your work and don’t want to get distracted. You don’t end up doing the task, you don’t like. As you grow up the ladder, there are more opportunity at the door, you need to very selective about the path you want to take. If we say yes to every task, we end up disappointing everyone.
Vocalizing no isn’t easy because right things are not meant to be painless otherwise everyone might have simply said no to the task, opportunity or person. You might be thinking how you can become better at saying no. Its by mere practice. You got to fake it till you make it. Say yes to the person and no to the task. I mostly go for lunch with my friends at office. However, one day I have to deny. I said, “I am happy to go on lunch with you. However, I have acid reflux so I can’t delay the lunch time.” A polite no is way better than the flat no as it preserves the relationship and other one creates distance. We are still good friends with a stronger bond.
Summing up use No and Yes wisely. We are the choices we make.
Happy Sunday!
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