So certainly did not challenge me, because he's uncomfortable with challenging people. So of course, I accepted.
Phone calls
I'm not talking about calling the support line, ordering a pizza, or checking exactly where someone is in the maze that is Dizengof Center. I'm talking about long phone conversations, like ones you would have if you were sitting together in the same room.
I much prefer text or face-to-face conversations. Text conversations allow me to think about what I'm going to say next. It allows me to craft my message. It allows me to backtrack if I missed anything. It allows me to multi-task when there isn't anything specific to say for a few minutes.
Face-to-face allows me to read body language. It allows me to look at a person and enjoy their company. To feel close. If we're in a cafe or restaurant it allows me to munch on something without chewing in their ear.
Phone calls do have advantages. For example, in text it's sometimes hard to understand tone. My mom is the only with whom I voluntarily have phone calls with. She lives abroad, has been for more than half my life, and being a mother she needs to know how I am. She used to ask in text.
"How are you?"
"Good."
Which left her completely unsatisfied.
So I've been insisting she call if she wants to know how I am, since when I say "Good" out loud, it conveys a lot more.
Phone calls have higher immediacy than text. If you want to know when to leave for a meeting, phone calls get you that information promptly. but more importantly than that, it doesn't allow for a long pause while someone is typing a block of text.
I'm sure most people have found themselves writing something over chat, maybe something flirty, and then the other person is typing. Still typing. Oh god they didn't like what I said. Still typing. They hate me now. Stopped typing and there is nothing coming in. That's it, I drove them away. Oh, typing again.
It's even worse when after all that you get like 5 words, but hey, at least you don't have to wait anymore.
So phone call don't have that. But they have the worst thing of them all. Awkward silences. You're just sitting there, with nothing to say, no interaction at all, not even a look, or a smile, or just even knowing something else caught their attention. Just sitting there, with a phone in your hand. Awkward.
Anyway, that was a rambling. I challenge to tell us where her comfort zone ends.