Some quotes from the book "The power of now'. Awesome book by Eckhart Tolle
"The compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. This creates an endless preoccupation with past and future and an unwillingness to honor and acknowledge the resent moment and allow it to be. The compulsion arises because the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions.
Be present as the watcher of your mind - of your thoughts and emotions as well as your reactions in various situations. Be at least as interested in your reactions as in the situation or person that causes you to react.
the present moment is all you ever have. There is never a time when your life is not "this moment."
All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.Presence is the key to freedom, so you can only be free now.
Your life situation exists in time. Your life is now.
Your life situation is mind-stuff. Your life is real."
Now the reason why I write this is that, We teach being in the moment in the girl. When you are really present with the girl, you are not distracted by your mind, you are not worried what to say next. You connect deeply, you can project a lot from eyes . When you are totally relaxed, the girl is also relaxed. There is no need for any gimmick. This is real connection. This is damn powerful once you understand it.
I struggle with being present because mind always tricks you. So meditation helps a lot. Also when you are aware that your mind is taking over so you stop your mind and take control
PS This article is deep, if you dont understand it thats normal.
Atleast try your best to be present with your interaction with the girls.
Peace!