I often repeat some things, such as:
We work tasks, each day before the exam questions. But sometimes, no matter how hard no progress, and even lost confidence in the criticism of others; This is our missing self adjusting ability of learning.
In simple terms, that is, when doing one thing, we want to set appropriate goals, and activities around this goal. Based on the objective evaluate yourself. And gather experience unceasingly in the process, reflect on learning ability to ascend.
Specifically, the process includes three parts, the color will introduce one by one and can tell you how to do it.
The first step is to observe myself:
Before doing one thing, we can according to certain standard carries on the preliminary investigation and evaluation about their abilities. Such as: add a job interview, for a project bidding, a small performance, etc. Before preparation, you can use these activities need to assess their skills. Specialized knowledge level of oral English ability to wing reserves or other aspects affecting the results. Evaluation in advance can let you find yourself in this matter, it is possible to find others help or in other ways to change your present situation. After self observation, and ready to, can have the two belong to your goal.
The first is the absolute target, the target is fixed, and is based on their ability to determine. Such as: use of time to finish the work, an hour or two hours a day to complete turnover, etc.
The second goal is a target model.
The goal is to give someone else. Find a role model, or is the ability of the same people, on the basis of him to set a goal, jump out of their own circle, see the overall level.
The second step is to judge yourself.
Things done, and the results of the matter before you compares two goals.
Absolute target used to measure their progress or not, the model for target can increase your motivation, if you are a salesman. You can make an absolute target: 30 day to sell products. Model and the target is a colleague of the company. Statistical work, you find yourself sold 32 products, products sold 35 and colleagues. Through the contrast? You may be aware of their own to achieve the target has succeeded. And distance of colleagues, the message will make you sure I can afford, and have more energy.
The third step is to self reaction.
This step is the comparison result of evaluation on the step. For example, the step to achieve the target, the satisfactory results will make you to have a positive evaluation. Work harder to learn; And, if the comparison result is bad, want to change the self-regulating process. From the first self observation stage considering whether to prepare related problems in thinking in the actual operation.
For example, what ability, also need to improve some methods with inappropriate, and so on.
Through the previous steps, you can use their own way to investigate the success of one thing, instead of living in other people's evaluation. 'color hope can you no matter what others say, know oneself excellent completed dream job and feel delighted, also waiting for you to behave badly when, oneself also know!
Say is, get rid of the influence of others in front of the way. When necessary, I didn't see how to give advice and make him feel comfortable at the same time?
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