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Is it really a big deal if you have sex with someone and you don't remember?
Well, i will leave you to answer that question yourself, i will just wait here for your responses. I think, personally, that I should concern myself more about consent. When both partners are aware of wanting to have S ex and did so without any force or coercion, then whether or not you remember the details after that is a function of how many bytes of storage your brain can hold.
Below are the three reasons why i think anyone may find himself... or herself in this kind of situation.
Enjoy!
Alcohol
The No 1 reason why you won’t remember that you have slept with anyone is alcohol. The probability of alcohol making you lose your sense of caution is more than 85%. The story above is an example of how alcohol can confuse you, although neither Paul nor his friend had s ex with Tomi and her friend that night; but they later would.
Being drunk with alcohol can make you go way over just being tipsy and you end up having s ex with random guys in the club or end up being taken away by strangers. We all know the dangers and troubles that could lead you into. For a lady, it is even much precarious.
How to avoid this?
Do not drink alcohol without a guide or in the company of strangers. And if you don't drink alcohol, don't start when you are not with your trusted friends.
Mood
**What’s wrong in being in the mood? Absolutely nothing except if you are below the age of consent, you shouldn’t ever get horny if you are not within s ex age please. **
Individual nature is different, there are people who can manage eruptions and sensations between their legs, take away their mind off it after a while; it’s absolutely super-normal and healthy to think about s ex, but there are people also who must satisfy those cravings no matter what it will take. Though irresponsible, it is the reason some people rape their partners, wives, girlfriends or total strangers.
In 2015, Wale worked at a customer service and one morning upon returning from a night shift saw a lady who was wandering around his house gate. Asked if she needed a help with a direction or something; turns out she was a guest of a neighbourly guy who Wale rarely spoke with. The guy has travelled and didn’t make any preparation for domestic needs of his invited guest.
Wale showed her his apartment and asked her to feel free to ask anything. Tired and exhausted from his shift, Wale went to sleep. Few minutes later, the lady knocked on the door and was allowed in albeit reluctantly, Wale really needed to sleep. The idea was that she wanted a company since everywhere was boring, she was as well hungry. So, food served, the cable was on and she could help herself with the remote. The only sound between them was silence and the audio from the cable which really had cut Wale’s sleep, so they both had to exchange some words here and there.
The Lady was a bit restless and almost all the time showing the underside of her arms, her thighs and flunking her hair in between; those things are pointers right?
Cut the long story, the lady came to Wale’s side on the couch and asked if she could give him a head. I mean straight- ‘Can I s* you?’ she asked softly. Wale told me it’s the most shocking thing he had ever heard in his life.**
I’m like ‘bro, what did you say to her?’
In his mind, he was like (excited) ‘why not?’ He simply replied ok and they just got into it and that was it. Wale never saw her again. I asked if he remembered her face. ‘No Bro, she wasn’t even on Whatsapp’.
Well, it wasn’t an assault, I keep telling my friend; the innocent Lady asked if you wanted a blow job and you responded in the affirmative!I am sure the lady cannot remember him again as well.
How can you avoid this?
If S ex is a spiritual thing to you then I think you should try not to be in the mood where people around are total strangers. If you really want a connection, maybe you should call an old friend or just help yourself- if you cannot hold it.
When you are stranded
The third reason is when you are stranded. Being stranded is almost the case of the story above, and it can somehow compel you to have to sleep with someone that you don’t want to sleep with. Adequate preparation before you embark on a journey can help you a lot to avoid this. Call up and be in touch with the person you are travelling to meet to know if there are any last minute changes before you start your journey. Ensure you have enough cash to take you to and fro in case the unexpected happens.
What should do in this situation
Be sure you know your host very well and you both quite have an understanding.
Let me gist you about a similar situation. Two guys once were about receiving a lady that one of them was expecting from Delta, the guys lived in Ibadan. The guy and the lady didn’t know each other; they have only been on voice calls and not on social so they both don’t have a clue to each other’s appearances. A little away from their meeting point, the actual host of the lady called and asked for where exactly she was and what she was wearing. Immediately the guy saw her from afar that she wasn’t looking very appealing, he bailed on her. The other guy thought it was wrong to leave her stranded so he assumed the position of the host- what men can do ehn?
The lady ended up spending the weekend with this other guy. I wonder how their conversations went perfect to previous ones the lady must have had with the actual guy.
Not knowing your host or the person you are going to meet exposes you to such risks as this and of course it is dangerous. What if something bad happens, how do we get the actual story?
To be continued…..
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