Love,emotions and relationships.......such deep words and probably the most difficult ones to understand.More the people,more the number of expalnations and more the confusion that each of those expalnations brings with it.This confusion and mystery related to these words is the outcome of one basic difference in thinking and perception of each of the person trying to understand it because these words mean different things to different people.So here is a brief description of my understanding about these things...
UNDERSTANDING THE BEAUTY OF LOVE......
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To me love is nothing and love is everything.For me the definition of love changes according to the thing we are referring to.If you ask me about love referring to the person with whom I share a romantic relationship or to my mom with whom I share some deep emotional relationship or to my family and friends with whom I share some other kinds of special bonds,it would mean the most important thing to me.I would be willing to do things that I don't like to do if they want me to do that.I would be ready to sacrifice a part of my smile for them .But if you ask me,what is love to you referring to some old ancient stuff or some important document about the world history ,I would say love of those things means nothing to me because those things mean nothing to me.Those things are not an important part of my life.That is my perspective but I am fully aware that there are historians and archeologists out there for whom the sole essence of life lies in those things.
So if you ask me,I would say... anything that makes you happy and makes you feel like you want to live a few more moments just for the sake of the thing and you want it in your life not just for the sake of wanting but because it makes your life beautiful is love.It could be anything ...your books ,your girfriend or boyfriend,your husband or wife,your profession,your family or your friends....anything...anywhere.Anything that has the capacity to heal you at the times of adversity and anything that lifts you up when you are drowning into the sea of darkness is love.It is a great virtue and loving someone or something with your deepest heart provides you the strength to overcome all hurdles that stand between you and your love.If you have great love for your dreams,you will try your best to achieve it and if you try your best,you are likely to get it.So love is an energy that drives your heart and soul and makes you feel strong ,happy and satisfied.
EMOTIONS......WHAT ARE THESE?
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Emotions when explained scientifically are something that are controlled by some parts of our brain that come under the limbic system and a few chemicals like dopamine,serotonin,acetylcholine ,et cetera are responsible for those emotions.But things out there are much more complex than they appear to be.The ways in which our emotions come out is a great mystery since time immeomorial.
Emotions ....according to me are the results of attachment to anything.Whatever it be,living or non-living,it doesn't make a difference.If we develop a feeling in our mind that we love the thing,it will 101% give rise to emotions.If anyone in the world doesn't have any emotions to a particular thing and says he loves it,I can bet he is lying.There could be two things...either he doesn't love it or he is lying that he doesn't have emotions for it.
Suppose,we hear a song which is about love.We don't know the singer personally but still it can affect our mind subconsciously in ways that we even don't know.We ,sometimes,even cry listening to the song.This is not because we love the singer very much or something like that but it is because the song makes us remember the thing or person we love.
Any of our emotions either love or hatred or happiness or sadness....everything is driven by attachment for one thing or the other.If we are attached to someone or something very much,even the slightest of their actions that bring out an ocean of emotions into our body and if we are not attached to it,the result is indifference.We simply don't care.
for example-A surgeon who has performed thousands of operations in many bodies starts to tremble when it comes to operating his own family member or a person he is deeply attached to.This is because there is outpouring of emotions inside his body driven by his attachment to the person that acts as a stimulus to activate the brain and release chemicals (when explained scientifically).
So it is upon us whether we want to explain emotions scientifically or spiritually or by any other ways,it is directly influeneced by attachment.As we are attached to the things we love,our emotions are also attached to the things we love.
THE TRUE MEANING OF RELATIONSHIPS....
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Relationship is the way in which two or more people are connected to each other.The relationship between two people could be that of child and parent,lovers ,brother and sister ,friends,relationship of a human to another or of a human to an animal or human to a thing.It could be anything.We are the ones who have given our own perception regarding relationships in the ways we like.
Relationships are the proof of our existence.Our relationship with another person or thing is a document that we exist.It we exist .....it means we are in relationship.Don't be too shallow in your thoughts.Think a bit deeper and with a more beautiful mind that is it really possible to survive without any relationship?
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No...not at all....Even if we don't have any relationship with any person,we need to have a relationship with the environment and nature to exist.We need to give out our carbondioxide and take in the oxygen given by the plants.We give life to plants and they in turn give life to us.So can we really free ourselves of this relationship? Never....Now I leave it to you all to think with a calm mind and find out other relationships that we are having without our knowledege.The relationships that are vital for survival....
RELATING LOVE,EMOTIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS
Love ,emotions and relationships are inseparable and are integral parts of each other.Any relationship gives rise to love and attachment and the same love and attacment give rise to emotions.It is absolutely impossible to say that I am in relationship with someone or something but I don't love it or it evokes no emotions in me.It can imply one two things...either you are lying about the relationship or you are lying about love and emotions.
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Let me give an example....Suppose there are two persons.. a boy and a girl...And they say they are in a romantic relationship...Now is it possible to explain their relationship without attachment and emotions?Of course no.There has to be something to specify that thing as a relationship between them.There has to be attachment and that attachment must lead to emotions.Then only the relationship can be called as a romantic relationship where the emotions of love and respect and attachment in various forms is present.
In a nutshell,love ,emotions and relationships are the most beautiful things in the world.These are the basis of our existence and the one of the important characteristics that differentiate us from non-living things.It is upon us...how we perceive them.Just as words...or much above words!!