Parenting 101 How to prevent your child from being a spoiled, stuck up, brat

Steemian parents and parents to be this is most certainly directed towards you.

Why do some kids take things for granite?

For starting let me briefly explain to those of you reading this what this Post is.. and What it isn't.
This Post is my opinion, and what I can and will suggest anytime and every time I'm asked on this subject regarding parenting 101 How to prevent your child from being a spoiled rotten brat, who takes everything for granite. So just to remind readers in case my communication problem acts up and makes it to where I can't get my point across this is Steven Carter's opinion not some facts I found in a book or online.

 

So Lets Prevent That

Before I begin let me start by saying the reason I'm expressing my opinion is because today at the store I watched as someone said to their crying child, "Please, Get Whatever You Want!, Just stop Crying!" this child had to be 10 or 11 years old. I actually watched for about 10 to 15 minutes and truthfully if I was that kid HELL YEAH I'd pull that shit every time. This kid was getting everything she wanted left and right and this store was Norstorms not known to be a cheap place by any means.

Parenting experience and what I've learned from it

I've been a parent for close to 15 years and 6 months, and currently I'm the overly proud parent of Children who I'm extremely Proud of at all times with that said its been one hell of a ride but its been good. When Rachel was born I was bad with spoiling her I'd give her anything she wanted and I did do this for probably the first 4 years then I realized she was acting like she was better than everyone around her even in pre school, quickly I said "F*ck That" her father comes from the slums.. I knew rats and cock roaches that had better conditions than I did.

Because I'm joking? Hell no.
 
As I would watch the way she treated people it became unexceptionable, so after picking her up from Head Start one day I took a ride through my old home town and as we drove through I saw a few friends of mine with their children outside playing, they were ll dirty and ghetto and Rachel was clean, so we stopped I got out got the kiddo out and we walked over I chatted with the guys for a few minutes and observed Rachel she didn't want to play with the other kids so I told her to she started to she was SOOOOO unhappy but the way she treated them wasn't cool. When we got home I asked her why she thought it was okay to treat people the way she did and I got a simple reply," Because I want to" fair enough I took away all her possessions, and from that moment on begun teaching her what its like not to have what you wanted my back then child's mother current ex-wife thought I lost it, but I proved a point it took me close to 3 weeks and finally Rachel started taking in to some form of appreciate of the little things and I appraised her for this, it was little steps at first then a few big ones after she got the point. I begun teaching my kids and showing them the rough side of life, I started showing them what happens if they don't focus on a goal and I also begun showing them things like what happens if you make the wrong choices, now obviously No one is perfect so I don't expect to have perfect. I do expect to have some one who will respect others and treat people the way they want to be treated, as well as trust.. I want my children to know they have my trust and until they break it they have it.

Trust and understanding have gotten me...

My daughters and son know as I mentioned I do trust them and if they tell me something its gold unless proven other wise. With that said an example of this is when my daughter Rachel got in to 9th grade and wanted to skip school with her friends she called me prior to the class and said, "Dad, I don't want to lie to you but I want to skip class with my friends and go hang out at Jessica's house can I?" I let her before I hung up I said Rachel I've watched you grow in to a smart, responsible, and mature young woman, I trust that you'll make the right choices but since you called me and asked me I will allow it but just know thats nothing more than a distraction. Fast forward 15 minutes later and she walked into class and left her friends at that house to get stoned, she mentioned to me at dinner that night it felt wrong and I gave her credit for it but I could tell she beat herself up for even being 5 minutes late to class since that day shes never skipped school, never ran off to get high. A lot of people may wonder how do I know this? Well besides her progress reports stating she hasn't missed any days and her grades reflecting straight A's she and I talk through out the day often and with that said I just know.. maybe its because I trust her or the simple fact I've come to learn her and how she is and what she expects.
Suggestions and recommendations to others, teach them right from wrong, show them whats important and teach them what to value and most importantly let them fail even if you can stop it and when they fail be there to support and advice, the advice these will go a long way no matter what. Faith in your child and keep in your head and heart that no matter what you've done your job if you've applied yourself and gave it literally everything you had in raising them. No one is perfect and perfect sounds lame anyway

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Disclaimer the images I used in this posting are from pinterest parenting for us. These views, my experiences, and my opinions are that of my own please do not think I am telling anyone how to do their job, I am simply offering advice to those of you that may run in to an issue and not have an answer to fix this issue, now a days its hard to apply discipline to children. Everyone stay safe.