I am not a parent myself, but have been privy to a similar debate that happened in a dear friend's household. They tried homeschooling/unschooling for his kindergarden year, but it didn't work out for them. However, when it came time to look for a school, they found a charter school that fit his needs--much smaller class sizes, classes grouped by a multi-year age range, and scheduled time every week for the kids to pursue their own interests (which the teachers help design lesson plans around). Keep having the conversations with your husband, but also keep your eyes and ears open to what kinds of schools may be available in your area. There may be something out there that fits your family when the time comes.