Did you ever in your live had this feeling of being alone? It feels like no one is caring for you? Or when ever someone is talking to you it feels like they are angry at you.
The other day I had a conversation with my oldest daughter of "being alone". I could see she was troubled but didn't want to ask in front of all her school friends what was wrong. I decided to take her out for an ice cream. We talked about her day and what she did. What she loved about her friends and so on. Then after a while she got silent and I asked her what was wrong. At first she said nothing and put on her famous fake smile... then their were silence again. I just looked at her and then I saw a tear running down her cheek. I took her hand and asked her again what was wrong. She started crying. We sat their and I just hold her that she could cry her heart out.
She felt all alone. In class her classmates would laugh at her if she made a mistake, even if she tried the best she could. There is one specific girl in her grade that is really on a mission to hurt and degrade everyone around her. The one thing about my daughter is that she has a small heart, saying this she is a caring loving child that wants to help others and will always try to protect someone if needs be. But this specific day there was no one to protect her of this other girl with her cruel words. The sad part is that this child will always say something when she's alone. It broke my heart to see her like this.
The first thing I wanted to do is get in my car and go back to the school and give this child a peace of my mind, but then I realize how will it help my child. The only thing I can teach her is that we are never alone, because God is with us and He sees all things, even if we can't see Him. The other thing is that now person can make you feel incompetent just because they know more than you. My husband said something this weekend that made me think. He said that you get different areas of being smart. You get children that's very good in math, then you get children that's very good in art or sport. This doesn't mean their not good enough. I think that we as parents loose our focus sometimes. We all want our children to be the best in something and stronger.
But this pressure can also help them to feel alone. It will take communication away. If I din't notice that their was something wrong I would have missed an opportunity with my child to show her that I care and that I'm their even if I'm not with her. She can always come and talk to me about anything.
Just because of this talk you wouldn't believe what difference it made for her. She is singing again and have so much confidence again, when ever this child has something to say she would just smile at her and turn around and go in a different direction. I told her that the most important people in her live is God first, then us her parents and sister and then her teacher. We believe in her and want to help her grow stronger and that she doesn't have to listen to a girl who only wants to scar her heart.
I think we all know how it feels to be alone and you can talk to now one. So my challenge to all our parents is show your child he/she is never alone. You are interested in him/her and not how good your child's performances made you look between your friends. In today's world we need to show our children that we have their backs and the don't need to feel alone anymore.
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