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One: Know thyself
This is a principal thing in everything you want to do or achieve in life, know yourself.
Because how you are affect how you see and judge things. It affects how you live, work and relate. So if you are unaware with who you are means all these three areas will be affect with your ignorance.
Focus, discipline and self control is possible when deeply know ourselves, when we embrace who we are and when we have a healthy relationship with ourselves.
People who are ignorant about themselves, cannot control this themselves, cannot lead themselves and have no authority over themselves. They make bad spouses, business partners, friends, co workers, even a boss or a leader.
To achieve a deep knowledge about oneself is not natural, you need to do your home work real well, otherwise everyone would be highly conscious of who they are. You need to dig deep, fly higher and search wider. It is a process that demands patients, objectivity and maturity.
When you meet someone who has mastered who they are, there's way you feel attracted to them, at easy around them, they simply influence and impart you subconsciously. They look natural, they know what their doing and so much in control of their lives.
So know thyself. Seek to be nothing but the best version of yourself.
Second; Be honest
Even when it tough sometimes to deal with honest, nevertheless most us we would like to see people who relate to us in any way are honest, in whatever business we have between us and them.
It takes courage for one to be honest, that's why very few people can be honest. Honest people most of the time are trusted and respected.
Fake people are soon found out, hypocritical people truth always exposes them. Dishonest has no future any where.
So be honest, it has great rewards.
Third; Mind your own business
We are only responsible for our own life, and we have so much to do, to deal with and to work on, than the time we have. For that matter avoid, putting your nose in other peoples businesses.
Deal with your own issues, fight your own demons, struggle with your own tendencies and tend to your own garden.
People love those who mind their own businesses. Even you would like to see somebody, sticking his/ her nose into your business uninvited?
So mind your business, you have your own issues to deal with.
Fourth; Accept other people they way they are.
We can never be the same. Diversity is part of nature. Therefore to do not resent, do not try to change people to be like you. Appreciate others for who they are, praise and encourage them to be the best of themselves. When you do this, let them see that you're genuine and you mean it.
We live in days where people are forced and pushed to fit in. People are trying hard to conform to what is accepted by many, instead of focus on being them. We end up missing their individuality in the society, schools, offices and life generally.
Once you accept people for who they are, people will like you and model you.
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Fifth; Be a good listener and speak when is neccesary
People are desperate and are looking for someone they can trust to vent their pains and frustrations.
The problem is everybody is talking nobody offers a listening service. We have many talkers, that's why there's so much noise than tranquility in the world today.
When people notice that you're a good listener, they will be more and more drawn to you. They know when they come to you they will not be lectured or judged, but the will be listened and understood.
People do not seek to hear the truth first, to hear the solution first but to be understood first, cared first.
Someone said sometimes a word heals sometimes silence heals.
The world is lacking listening services so be one.
Sixth; Respect other peoples boundaries.
Boundaries are very important in enhancing our lives, even though most of the time we have a negative feeling about them and the people who live by them, as if they do not real enjoy life and are not free.
People who do not live with boundaries, are always in trouble. They are disrespective.
Life and people now days have become too intrusive. They take for granted other people's boundaries. Very few people today enjoy boundaries, because majority do not have their own boundaries.
People who know their limits command respect.
Seventh; Be there for someone. Give yourself a room to help other people, especially when help is needed. Or when they look like the do not deserve.
Do what you can with what you have according to the circumstances. It may appear small and significant in your eyes or other people's eyes. But to the person offered, it means a lot, when you give it with all sincerity.
Listen people know, I do not know how but somehow you can feel it when someone is sincere or not in what they give.
God's way is man so be there for someone, you may make big difference just by being there. It feels better to have somebody who is for you around you, when things do not make sense.
Eighth; Invest in general knowledge too.
Live in the an information age. But we are starving for basic knowledge and wisdom, isn't it funny?
General life knowledge is important, endeavor to learn some new things always. Even if you may not see a direct connection with your vision, talent, expertise, plans and future. It opens up your mind, it generates creativity, it changes your life.
Today people do not want to invest in general knowledge, we can access more information yet most of us are dumb to the core.
Individuals who are well informed, those who possess deep general knowledge, have depth in how they live, relate, work, parent, in their opinion, advice, judgement of issues etc. You may think their genius or talented, but they just invested in general knowledge.
General knowledge makes a big difference. You will always be ahead of the park. People will seek to consult you on different issues affecting their lives.
Ninth; Give advice when asked but don't make a decision for someone.
Even though people may seek advice on different issues that confound their minds, but people hate it when somebody makes a decision for them instead of advising them.
It is an annoying habit. Do not labour to have it.
Tenth; Do not live to impress or to solicit endorsements
I read it somewhere, that we would be amazed of how much we can do if we didn't care who gets the credit.
It is the same with life, what could we have done if we stopped letting people somehow control our decisions indirectly, through their endorsement.
That's why we care so much about the brand we wear, the street we live, the food we eat, we what people to have a certain image of us, that says I'm better, I'm doing well and I'm rich.
It is the worst way to live. It makes you paranoid, inferior and unstable. Such life will never draw anyone to it. If you wish at all to make people drawn to you, just live. Forget about impressing people.
Eleventh; Be natural
Do don't act out things, just be natural let people see the real you.
Do not exaggerate things. Natural people attract phony people repels.
Twelves. Acknowledge your limits
For whatever reason never abuse your limits. It will not make you a hero but loser. As much you may need to help people, but remember you have limits. Limits reminds you that you also need help, you cannot do everything alone.
This opens up a door for other peoples, to contribute something in your life. Or to come along knowing that you need them. Because naturally people enjoy also helping someone.
People are never drawn to someone who present himself/ herself to be self sufficient.
So, be vulnerable and acknowledge your limits. It will never drive people away, instead it will connect you even more to them.
Thirteenth; Live Creatively
Life without creativity is monotonous.
Be passionate about your life and be creative on how you live it. There's beauty in being creative. Who among men is not drawn to creativity.
Be creative in your work, leisure, relationship, parenting etc. People will always wish to know how do you do it?
Otherwise thank you for your time
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