How many new books on self-improvement are being written nowadays. But a book from a few decades ago is still contemporary. The book, which has sold over three crores, is titled How to Win Friends and Influence People. Author Dale Carnegie. If you want to improve your networking, communication or leadership skills, you must read this book.
The question is, what is in this book? The strategy to conquer the human mind has been shown in four parts. The first part deals with the basic techniques of building a good relationship with someone, the second part shows how to win the hearts of the people, the third part shows how to make your thoughts attractive to the people and the fourth part shows how to lead the people.
Do you know your favorite word? Many of us may have written, ‘Mother is the sweetest word in the world.’ There is no doubt about it. But the word we like the most is our own name. As soon as you hear your name somewhere, your attention goes to it. So as much as you can, use people's names. Enter the person's name at the beginning of the SMS. When saying goodbye, add the name 'Khoda Hafez Shakib Bhai'.
Use people's names in the real world in the same way that you send messages to people by tagging them on Facebook. See how much change comes. And you can do one thing today. There are well known rickshaw pullers, security guards, cleaners in your area, address them by name. You see, they will quickly adopt you.
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Many do not listen to understand, but wait to speak for themselves. The urge to speak for oneself is more misunderstood than listening to others. Mr. Carnegie's simple words: Brother, you let someone else speak.
‘What if I don’t know anything about others?’ Even easier! Ask a question! An innate human instinct is that he wants to tell people about himself, he wants to talk. This is why you will see that many people do not want to leave the microphone. So if you have nothing to say, let others say it. If they have nothing to say, ask questions about them.
According to Dale Carnegie, it would take two years for you to become as close to yourself as you would be in two months if you listened to people!
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It goes without saying that there is no culture of 'thank you' in our society. No matter how much I say ‘thank you’, we all enjoy being praised. So start thanking people and, if possible, explain why they are being thanked. ‘Thank you Karim Mama! You gave me a little more milk today, the tea is good! ',' Thank you RASHED uncle! How do you do that duty at night! When I get a little less sleep at night, my studies start ringing! '
Many more such tips and tricks are mentioned in the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. If these three strategies are difficult to remember, then let's talk about another strategy that is most important. You can at least remember this: if you are curious about people from the heart, then you will easily become popular with people.