The truth is in conversations nobody really reveals how fucked up they are or better decision-making they are or how many mistakes they have made repeatedly instead what we do is we show how awesome we are,in doing so the only emotion allowed to be felt its amazement.
So naturally you explore for the person because you're thinking they are amazing.It is only after a while of knowing them,you realize they are severely unreliable or their actions and promises have no correlation or they are the opposite of the personality they sold to you.
Normally people buy these initial personalities and learn the hard way but perceptive and smart people have learned not to rely on what the other person is telling.They do their own investigation and without the permission of the other person, are able to silently figure out what their actual behavioral tendencies are.And with most people,they find,it's disappointing to.
Trust,after meeting so many people with a disjointed relationship between their actions and words,it becomes very hard to trust people.A clever person knows not to trust the first impression,so they rely on data from people's past.On wanting to know about their past two things happen
1)People either conceal information or always adjust their stories portraying themselves in the right,as if in every scenario they were wronged by others,which is bullshit
and it makes hard to trust them
2)They actually truthfully reveal their past,and you realize it is full of dysfunctional choices that follow a pattern.In this case,dating them becomes a leap of faith because you are unsure if they have overcome this pattern in which they repeatedly do something that screws their own piece 3 conflict of interest it is very hard to find people with similar interest pursuits and philosophies.
Intelligent people especially function on very strong philosophies they have grown to accept after thinking reading and debating a lot so in conversations whenever they hear a philosophical or ideological belief.
They know is stupid they are intensely put all the same goes with people's interests and likes or the lack of any we're sure their personalities are either empty or borrowed people generally don't give much thought to their beliefs ideologies and principles,which is why so many people are confused or keep switching their beliefs in accordance with what is radical edgy or what make them look cool there is no questioning doubt or heart behind.
These four intelligent people mostly are not fans of a vibrant social life they feel no need for it and as you know people crave a healthy social life as if they'll die without it by social life I mean socializing going out clapping meeting or getting to know more people increasing the following friendship count social media shit there is a reason why most of the greatest geniuses throughout history were reclusive or had a very small close circle of friends they did it not because it was a statement of coolness rebellion it was simply because they didn't see any point in it five we don't want to get hurt which reduces the chances of taking risk which reduces the chances of getting in a relationship with any person who takes interest in you intelligent people are selecting their partner on the basis of minimizing the risk of hurt stress headache and maximizing growth productivity and happiness!