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"Children do not need smart parents, but need parents who are ready to accept their situation and want to continue to learn"
Friday, January 16, 2016, Yayasan SDIT Bina Insan Parepare held a parenting seminar entitled "Building Positive Communication Between Children and Parents". The material was presented by Bimansyah Al Harisi. Ustad who was born 33 years ago is a trainer who often fill parenting seminars, he also works as a headmaster in one of the SDIT in East Kalimantan.
Ustad Bima. Thus his intimate calling, bringing the material interesting and interactive, he often invites the laughter of the participants by giving examples that feel silly but it is often done by the parents. Just look at the story of a child who was given Rp.5000 by his grandparents. The child is not grateful but instead said "Just this way?" After being investigated, the child often heard his mother say the same at the end of the month, when the husband gave the money to spend.
There are many other stories that are more hilarious, making seminars that run from ba'da Durur to azar not feel long and boring.
One thing I need to note from the exposure Bimansyah Al Harisi this time is the concept of educating children using the philosophy of 5 fingers. I think the 5 fingers illustrating 5 important aspects of educating the child is quite effective, just by looking at his own fingers, the points can be memorized off the head.
Thumb (exemplary)
Children may fail to hear the orders of their parents, but they will be very successful in imitating their mother's actions. For that, they need a good example from their parents and teachers. At home, children need mothers who always model before they are ordered, and at school they need competent teachers, whose actions are worthy of digugu.
Children will imitate everything from the behavior of their nearest person; how to get angry, how to express opinions, how to speak, etc. So true the saying goes "the fruit falls not far from the tree", adab child habits will not be far from adab habits of her parents.
Fingerprint (Habitat)
Ustad Bima provides an example of this practice. Often experienced this incident? children come home from school, put clothes and shoes anywhere. Though Mother has taught the child to keep everything in place, but the child always forgot, and let his things lie just like that.
Apparently when we experience this experience, parents should not be desperate to repeatedly lead the child to keep the goods in place. If the first 3 days are still unsuccessful, repeat in the days that follow, guide the children, show how, and do not despair, much less to scold and punish our children. Once the patience of getting used to it will bear fruit, the children will get used to it, and manage to do it without being reminded.
It's true, sometimes we can not be patient, want to see results instantly. New also give examples some days, we already feel despair, and finally give up. As a result the child returns to his bad habits.
Middle Finger (Caution)
In accordance with the highest form of the middle finger among all the fingers, such is the portion of "attention" to the child. Children who get less love from their parents will not be comfortable at home. They will feel more comfortable outside, where they get the attention of their friends. And we know for ourselves, the environment out there like what, could be our children will fall in the wrong association.
Sweet fingers (Advice)
As the name suggests is "Sweet fingers", advice should always be given to the child with sweet, without anger, easy to understand, and clear.
Little Finger (Punishment)
Like the little finger, the portion of punishment must be small. Focus on the positive things that children achieve and reward them, much better than focusing on their mistakes and giving them punishment.
So 5 philosophies that must be considered when educating children. With the support of a positive school and community environment, God willing, our children will grow into a strong generation, a good generation, good religion, morality, and character.
May be useful.